txsilkysmoothe Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Women do not know what average means when it comes to body type. Average in the U.S. means overweight.
BobSacamento Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Average in the U.S. means overweight. That's nothing to be proud of.
OpenGL Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I will say that it takes a LOT of time. Of course all dating does. But over the years I've hit on literally thousands of women and spent countless hours online. I get maybe a 1-2% lay rate. That is, out of every 50-100 women I contact I sleep with 1. Very low percentage, but I can shoot out a quick email in 20 seconds and when I'm really in the game I'll contact 5-10 women in a day. And of course you're not going to find the super model types online, or very rarely. Of course that's like in real life too. I usually get with 5s-6s. Every once in awhile a 7-8. Never have I dated, and have rarely seen, a 9-10 online. There are a whole lot of 1-4s. Hahaha you have to be kidding me. This just confirms my statement is accurate. Having a 1-2% lay rate from 5's and 6's is exactly what I would expect and exactly what I meant by saying online dating does not work for men unless you're attractive. Of course, if you're and average guy and just spam 1000's of emails out there to mildly overweight women all day you're going get SOME dates and SOME lays. I still wouldn't call that success.
meerkat stew Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Have learned that online dating is a godsend for those of us who live in the outer more rural suburbs of a large city. Have also learned that like many other things in life, the more thought and effort you put into it, the more successful you will be. My first profile picture, several years ago, was a digital camera in hand shot of my face and shoulders, 30 pounds overweight, unshowered and unshaven, bloodshot eyes, hair sticking up from bedhead, wearing nothing but a wifebeater tee shirt with a giant zit on my forehead. Not exaggerrating in any way, just didn't realize the realities. Would send women page long emails as an introduction. Obviously, I had little success with that killer approach. As I improved my appearance, profile and technique, my success multiplied by a factor of ten, then 100. If I can do it, any man can. Just takes practice.
BobSacamento Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Have learned that online dating is a godsend for those of us who live in the outer more rural suburbs of a large city. Have also learned that like many other things in life, the more thought and effort you put into it, the more successful you will be. My first profile picture, several years ago, was a digital camera in hand shot of my face and shoulders, 30 pounds overweight, unshowered and unshaven, bloodshot eyes, hair sticking up from bedhead, wearing nothing but a wifebeater tee shirt with a giant zit on my forehead. Not exaggerrating in any way, just didn't realize the realities. Would send women page long emails as an introduction. Obviously, I had little success with that killer approach. As I improved my appearance, profile and technique, my success multiplied by a factor of ten, then 100. If I can do it, any man can. Just takes practice. That is true. At first my prictures sucked. One of them you could see my destroyed dirty ass room in the background. Now that I have better pictures, women frequently initiate contact.
pandagirl Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 1. Be somewhat selective. I'm a major screener. If I don't feel any rapport over email, I don't meet the guy even if he's hot. 2. It's a crapshoot. Just like in real life, it's hard to find someone you mesh with, online dating just widens your opportunities. 3. I go out and socialize, but I hate the bar scene. Also, at my age (31), most of my friends are married or attached so my chances of finding great single men through friends isn't so great. I found my current boyfriend online in the most random way. I never thought it would amount to anything, but here I am in a relationship!
Barky Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Would send women page long emails as an introduction. LOL so true. Guess there is a learning curve, which perhaps most men don't make past before quitting. I remember when I'd single out one girl, put a whole lot of work into one introductory email, then spend the next day or two fantasizing about how pretty she was and what she'd say in response, wait wait wait, and then be heartbroken when she deleted my email. I'm embarrassed to say I didn't really hone my 'skills' till I'd been doing it for years
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