hearttobreak Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 So a few weeks ago, I was with a group of people at a social gathering. Didn't mesh well with a few of them, so never really checked back with all of them. However, this one we exchanged numbers. She noticed I stop coming to the gatherings and sent an email to me. Asking if everything was okay and if I ever wanted to hang out I should contact her. I am horrible at reading people. Can someone give me some insight on how to proceed here? Was going to email back something like yea, would like to hang out sometime too. What's your week look like? Something not too strong, but not too weak. Or, and I reading this all wrong?
soulm8 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 She noticed I stop coming to the gatherings and sent an email to me. Asking if everything was okay and if I ever wanted to hang out I should contact her. Can someone give me some insight on how to proceed here? Was going to email back something like yea, would like to hang out sometime too. What's your week look like? Something not too strong, but not too weak. She's interested in getting to know you better. If you have her number, CALL tomorrow and see if she wants to do something. If you only have her email, reply with something like, "I've just been busy, but if you want to get together on (day), let me know." Not knowing your ages makes it hard to know what to suggest for hangout - I'm sure you have some ideas
Author hearttobreak Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Early 30's for both. However, need to tread lightly, as she is going through a divorce. Has a cute little kid too. I don't want to be too aggressive though.
Author hearttobreak Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 She replied and said definitely up to hanging out. And I should call her if I want. Guess that would seem there is some interest on her end. No?
soulm8 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 She's interested in getting to know you better. If you have her number, CALL tomorrow and see if she wants to do something. Yes, she's interested... why are you so unsure of yourself?
Author hearttobreak Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Not sure if she just wants to be friends or something more.
1013 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 You have nothing to lose dude Ask her out for coffee, and if that goes well, ask her for a more romantic date, and if you got it wrong, so what! No big deal. She'd at least be flattered
soulm8 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Not sure if she just wants to be friends or something more. Well, she DID go out of her way to contact you... she noticed you weren't at that group activity. You should get a better idea from the meeting over coffee or whatever you do together. Just keep in mind that she's adjusting to being single again (right? I didn't reread your original post). If you want to be more... then be a good friendly guy but throw in the occasional hint that you like her so she see's you as a potential boyfriend - not JUST a friend.
lab_brat Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I think she sounds interested, as long as by 'social club' you don't mean a support group???? Not meaning to offend, i just think that if it was something like an AA meeting, she may not be hitting on you??
Author hearttobreak Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Yea, its a social group of young people. We go out to eat and different activities like bowling, movies, concerts, etc. We've been in the group for a few months. I don't really get along well with the organizers so I left the group. So she mailed me to see if I was doing alright and was up for hanging out. I guess, if it was only in a friendly way, she would had just called instead of telling me to call if I felt up to it. Seems like she's stepping softly to either a gauge my interest or b show not too much interest.
lab_brat Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 In that case, yes, i think she's interested. If she wasn't why would she care that you've left the group? Ask her out to dinner, or a movie - something evening-ish. Good luck!
Author hearttobreak Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Perhaps you are right. I'll give her a call tomorrow. Since there is a blizzard coming, doubtful she'll be working.
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