USMCHokie Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Most people on LS tend to divulge their innermost thoughts and feelings about themselves and relationships. This would include insecurities, beliefs, and opinions about relationships and the opposite gender in general. I imagine most people wouldn't normally be this open to someone they just started dating or were in a relationship with... Would you care if someone you were dating saw "the real you" as reflected in your posts on LS?
sumdude Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 (edited) No way, the whole point of this is to be pretty much anonymous. Over time as a relationship progresses the revealing happens on both parts. In fact that is the building of a relationship. One person reveals part of themselves and gauges how the other reacts, then the other reveals something. If you get the wrong signal at some point the relationship stops progressing If someone read my 5 year posting history when we first met it would not go well. Not that I'm ashamed of any of it just that it would be wayyy TMI. Edited February 8, 2010 by sumdude
Bejita463 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Depends on how long I've been dating them, I suppose. This would be information overload for someone who doesn't really know me yet.
meerkat stew Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Wouldn't really care if a GF saw what I posted here, but very protective of net anonymity for other reasons.
tami-chan Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Would I care? No, I don't think so....as a matter of fact, I think I will just let him read all my posts here, so we can use the time doing other stuff and skip the "getting to know her more" part....
ella23 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I don't think that I'd want my boyfriend to see my posts. lol.
Satisfaction Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I'd be gutted! I'm not sure guys are fond of reading about the heartbreak and the stupidity of the girl they are seeing. Before I started posting on forums and before mighty google came along I used to have a yahoo site and I shoved my real name and my email nickname on it. I wrote a bunch of poems about how much I hated life and my frustration about everything and sex and stuff. My psycho ex googled me and found it. He bookmarked it printed off every page and proceeded to question me about every single issue. That day ended with me losing it completely and throwing the contents of my dresser and my bookcase at him. I still cringe to think of it. Even after that I didn't learn and kept using my email nickname as a username. I was even on a dating site using that nickname. Google gets better at indexing everything and sometimes i'd check google myself and years or months later google would index stuff it hadn't before. Had to delete my myspace and youtube because of that. My solution now is just to write everything down and limit the amount of sites I join.
Awesome Username Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to tell anyone in real life that I post here. However, I think that the stuff I have said here has passed through my mind and I've spoken with my heart. If someone couldn't handle what I say on here, then he probably would be a bad match for me anyways.
counterman Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I wouldn't want her seeing it but if I have been with her for a long time then I would not mine. Though, it would be weird if she read posts that I posted about her.
Citizen Erased Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 My ex knew I posted on here eventually and he read a few things that hurt him and he kept checking up on me...I changed my username and everything but eventually I'd get the screw him mindset. When we broke up one thing he said to me was the people on LS knew me better than he did. And he was right, this is my place to vent and be myself, something I never really was with him because we just plain were two very different people. Who knows, he may still read on here if he's curious but he'll read a whole lot he won't be happy with. I swore to myself I wouldn't let another guy know I posted here...yeah now I'm with another poster from here. Ah well, worth it.
counterman Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Is it possible to change your username or do you have to create a new account?
Citizen Erased Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Is it possible to change your username or do you have to create a new account? If you have a particular reason, PM Tony or Paul and request a change. If not, new account.
counterman Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Thanks! It is nothing major. Just in case I think my privacy is compromised when someone (who I don't want to) recognises me.
bayouboi Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 It kills mystery for my date to find out what I post here. Considering this is your first and only post, I lol'd
Lizzie60 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 .............. at Rich... I would absolutely NOT want anyone I know see what I post.. and I very much doubt I could be find on here.. I never told anyone in RL about this site..
ella23 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 It kills mystery for my date to find out what I post here. Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1
Clep Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Having my bf see my posts here would not bother me in the slightest.
zebracolors Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 If on the off chance he even came to this site, and figured out my username, I don't think I would have reason to be worried. Of everything I have revealed, I haven't said anything here that I've not already talked with him about, in reguards to both myself and us as a couple.
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