mortensorchid Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 It's now Sunday night / early Monday morning. I have written about a situation I have been in for a while now. To review, I met this awesome guy several weeks ago on Match. We had three dates, three Saturday nights in a row, which went very well. This past Thursday, I got a voice mail message from him saying that he was busy this weekend. Friday he said he had dinner plans, Saturday he said he was doing some family things, but proposed that maybe if the family stuff was over early enough that he could see me later on Saturday night. I returned the call saying that I had made some alternate plans, but might be around on Friday night to at least have a chat. No response. As today is / was Superbowl Sunday, he had mentioned that he would be watching the game. I did not call or text him as I didn't want to bother him, and I have received nothing from him either. Now, here is my question ... If I do not hear from him by tomorrow evening, when do I throw in the towel and realize that I will not hear from him again? I am not playing games by not calling him, but I do believe that since he said he was busy and he did not contact me since, the ball is in his court and he should call me for future plans. What do you all think is the next move? I am not playing games, but I realize that this is a very literal game of chess, and I intend to win.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Thanks HM. I will take that advice to heart. As it's the day after the Superbowl, I now realize, he might need another day to recover. I'll just let it be and won't start stressing about it until Wednesday.
Rulebreaker Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Rules say no accepting Saturday night dates after Wednesday. If he calls you Thursday, you already have plans. If he is interested in you, blowing him off/distance will likely increase his interest and get him to step up. If he is not, you will not invest any more of your time and energy. People call this game-playing, but in many ways it is just self-preservation.
sullysteve Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Relax. It's only been a couple of days and he's had a busy weekend. Has he been shady or dishonest with you so far? If not, give him the benefit of the doubt. I agree, if he doesn't return your call by Thursday, I would question his interest.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Yes, it is now Tuesday. I hate playing this waiting game, but I will have to if I want this to be something good. The ball is in his court and he should call me if he's interested.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Yes, it is now Tuesday. I hate playing this waiting game, but I will have to if I want this to be something good. The ball is in his court and he should call me if he's interested. M, time to delete this guy from your life. A guy isn't worth it if after a few dates he decides to do the disappearing act. It means you guys aren't on par. You want to develop a relationship, but he's too busy with other things to pursue a relationship. When a guy is that " busy" to contact, you're better off meeting new people who will more likely reciprocate.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 I agree, both with Papercuts and Rulebreaker. I shall self preserve and persevere.
stillafool Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Did he take you out and pay 3 Saturday nights in a row? Could be he doesn't want to spend anymore money or is out of it. Maybe he wants you to invite him over for dinner or something. Who knows what men want. I'm tired and going to take a nap.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Speaking of naps, know what's really hysterical? I tend to be a talker in my sleep, I have vivid dreams. I was taking an afternoon nap today, and had a dream that he called me and I was talking to him on the phone. Then the phone rang, roused me awake, and it was my mom. For a second I thought that he had called and that I was talking to him or that we had already talked that day. HA! Nearly 9 pm on Tuesday. No word.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Wednesday night. I give up, threw in the towel. Depressed but moving on.
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