EvergreenD Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 So im new the whole dating scene. Just got out a 5 year relationship about 6 months ago. Met this really nice and cute chick. Went on 1 date so far. I know its still early in our relationship..but when would you consider us a "couple". Thanks
greatgirlfriend Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 It depends on many situations. Only you know when it's right. I know on my first date with the guy I'm dating he called me his girlfriend but then later on said we were friends and I could date others but he won't (I'm not dating others). My case is different since we were friends for many years who recently reconnected.
Author EvergreenD Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 lol..but I mean..how do I go about mentioning something like that to her? like..how do I mention that we are together? a couple? lol..im confused.
boogieboy Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Wait until she brings it up. Meanwhile you go with the "unspoken" understanding that you both arent seeing other people. Its only been 1 date, Dont rush it.
soulm8 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Wait until she brings it up. Meanwhile you go with the "unspoken" understanding that you both arent seeing other people. Its only been 1 date, Dont rush it. IME, the "unspoken" understanding is that you both ARE seeing other people until you discuss being exclusive. ???
Author EvergreenD Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 See thats what I always thought boogie boy. Is that once you go on a "date" and your planning on going on the 2nd date..that its the rule that you 2 are "kind" of committed to each other like no seeing other people etc etc. Thats what I thought..but then i read that it still doesnt matter, you can "date" other girls until you are an official couple...
counterman Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I think when she brings it up and says she wants it to be exclusive.
D-Lish Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 You wait to bring up exclusivity until you've been dating for a while. You've only had 1 date...
boogieboy Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 See thats what I always thought boogie boy. Is that once you go on a "date" and your planning on going on the 2nd date..that its the rule that you 2 are "kind" of committed to each other like no seeing other people etc etc. Thats what I thought..but then i read that it still doesnt matter, you can "date" other girls until you are an official couple... Technically you CAN until you agree to be exclusive, but you dont want to do that by the 2nd date, you could scare her away. Really, if she is talking to you often, and pretty much giving you all of her attention, then youre on the way to being exclusive anyway. If youre trying to establish exclusivity because you think shes already seeing other people, than you cant say anything, you might look insecure to her. IME, the "unspoken" understanding is that you both ARE seeing other people until you discuss being exclusive. IME that is usually with serial daters.
soulm8 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 its the rule that you 2 are "kind" of committed to each other like no seeing other people etc etc. Thats what I thought..but then i read that it still doesnt matter, you can "date" other girls until you are an official couple... You aren't an official couple until you discuss being a couple with each other.
Author EvergreenD Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 i think shes pretty into me.. we talk on the phone 4 to 5 times a week. Other than that its on MSN messenger cuz either im at work or shes at work....
carhill Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Unless you're 16 give it a couple of months. The faster you stake out your territory the faster the natives arrive
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