cupra Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 well...as its my first time to do this..but i really need help with ths situation as its my first true love so i dont know ho to deal with this issue without losing everything.. i started dating this girl since 6 months almost and things were fine she was the girl i was looking for and we both were happy with this relationship..im 23 years old and she's 18 and our relationship was am amazing full of happiness we even had our marriage plans and we were already engaged and this changed everything with me and my life that i thought am the happiest man in this world and like i finally found my girl after being single and patient for almost 5 years as i can hardly remember anything about relationships...anyway, n these 5 years i had many friends ((girls)) and like i got nothing to care for i was in love with my life as a single guy..but when i met this girl she was the most wonderful girl i've ever seen and we started talking about our lives and i told her how i didnt have any girl friend since 5 years and everything was okay and i was her first boy friend and i was soo happy to hear this but she wasnt happy to know that i had a girl friend before but anyway it was since long time...after 6 months together she found some pictures for me with another girls n the past like i was drunk with them and things like that and and she thought that i've lied to her that i didnt have any girl friend and she went sooo crazy as she easily gets jealous and it blinds her even and that day she called me telling me how she hates me because i lied to her and just crying and crying and i couldnt do anything about it she didnt give me any chance to explain and she decided to break up with me for that and i really did nothing i just didnt tell her about these things before because i was afraid that i might hurt her with this because i know how jealous she gets..now she left me while im dying to be with her and i keeep thinking and thinking maybe the reason because she's still 18 so she cant think right or maybe because she's soooo sensitive about these things but anyway whatever is the reason im doing my best to get her back again but i just dont know how..i tried texting her and sending msgs but what i get is either ignorance or rude replys like insulting and disrespecting me and i had to take all of this for sake of going back to her..i had to take it easy and dont think too much of what she's doing like im pushing my self to take whatever she does but i dont know when all of this goin to end,,i still have hope but also still in pain..i can leave and find another girl but i really want this girl..i believe i was soo patient about finding the right partner and once i found this girl i knew she was the right girl for me thats why i dont want to leave her..its been 2 weeks now since that fight and it feels like 2 years and all what i do is texting her in the middle of the night sayn that i love her and am always here for her and i will never leave but am not getting any response from her...i dont really know what to do now..whats the next step..should i go to her house and just surprise her and try to get with her again..or should i wait to valentine and invite her out while i might get the ignorance also..and if i got this ignorance or i did nothing of these things,,what else can i do?....any help pls?!! Link to post Share on other sites
LostInLimbo Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 Easier to read if you seperated the paragraphs...anyways.... I think you should keep your distance, you should have told her right up front about the other girls/pictures, but thats a tough position for you to be in, your damned if you do and damned if you don't. As for Valentines day, you need to play it safe, you making that contact may only push her away more, maybe wise to keep NC - LC with her, as she needs to heal after seeing what she did. My advice is to play it slow, see if she contacts you, you both are pretty young, If your feeling that urge come V-Day, contact her, don't just show up, that would be kinda stalking, if you do, contact her (not going over there) maybe by phone or txt (which I really wouldn't) but keep it simple, short and to the point, no apologizing, begging, just simple... Hope that helped a bit... LiL Link to post Share on other sites
Author cupra Posted February 8, 2010 Author Share Posted February 8, 2010 the thing is i didnt know about these pics .. that girl uploaded them to her profile n a website like things happened n her life..i didnt knw about them...and am afraid if will let her go and wait for her to come back she might understand it as i dn need her anymore ..she's only 18 and i cant trust the way she thinks...i dn want to risk losing her...thnx fr ur reply n anyway Link to post Share on other sites
LostInLimbo Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 Hey Cupra, if you don't trust the way she thinks, why pursue it? it all comes to this, if she wants you, she knows how to contact you, do not chase her, it may only make things worse.... Good Luck... LiL Link to post Share on other sites
Author cupra Posted February 8, 2010 Author Share Posted February 8, 2010 so should i leave the situation the way it is and do nothin?..im confused between 2 plans.. #1 txt her on weekend and invite her fr out anywhere...but f i did this one and i got ignorance so i cant go for plan #2 that is am gonna send her a valentine gift on v-day and ask the shop to deliver it to her house...so which one do u see is the right?... Link to post Share on other sites
LostInLimbo Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 If anything, my advice would be go with number 2, as the first one you mentioned, looks kinda pushy, once you have sent a VDay gift, let go from there and give it time, to let her contact you.. Also I hate to say this, but do you know if she has found someone else? seems kinda harsh that she left with not even allowing you to talk to her or nothing, unless she was just that crushed by it and said enough... LiL Link to post Share on other sites
Author cupra Posted February 8, 2010 Author Share Posted February 8, 2010 she's nt tht kind of out going girls..she dont hv much friends..and the first time she went out with me it ws her first time to show up with a guy n front of ppl...so no she wont find anyone else...and as i ws the first for her so she got the first impression about relationships from me and i really gave her the right one so i dnt think she can go for someone else..but the thing is i dont want to leave things like that till oneday i'll find out the she really hates me..and there is noo way back.. Link to post Share on other sites
LostInLimbo Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 Then my advice would be to go with your 2nd idea, not your first, because if you don't it sounds like your going to have regrets of not doing something.. LiL Link to post Share on other sites
Author cupra Posted February 8, 2010 Author Share Posted February 8, 2010 ya even if things ddnt go as i want..at least i would tell me self "i did my best" so i wont blame my self later..and ya i'll go fr #2 ..hope it will work...thnx Link to post Share on other sites
LostInLimbo Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 ya even if things ddnt go as i want..at least i would tell me self "i did my best" so i wont blame my self later..and ya i'll go fr #2 ..hope it will work...thnx NP Cupra, Best Of Luck...We have all been there and some of us still there... LiL Link to post Share on other sites
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