Butterflair Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I understand about futures being changed, mine feels that way too. Taking trips with the grandchildren and doing fun things with them isn't going to happen. There will only be one of us now. Every time I go somewhere with the babies I keep thinking about how he is missing this. I don't think they (the men) are even thinking of us and what it destroyed for us, they are in a selfish place and can't think of anyone but them. You seem to be doing a little better. Hopefully you'll reach a place where you're not counting weeks and days. Not thinking about how long it will take to get over it, I have no idea how long.. I'm assuming a year of firsts will be the hardest and then after that it will be residual at random times. We need to keep our thoughts positive, we will get through this and we will learn how strong we are and that we can do it on our own. I do understand about the shared life, I had that too. I've been with him since I was 17, loved him for that long but he's not the same man I knew then. He's chosen a different path. So no, it's not easy to move on but can't stay in the same place, we have to move forward slowly.
Gunny376 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I understand about futures being changed, mine feels that way too. Taking trips with the grandchildren and doing fun things with them isn't going to happen. There will only be one of us now. Every time I go somewhere with the babies I keep thinking about how he is missing this. Least I'm wrong (and I seldom am! ) NC is one off the States has a Grandparent Visitation Rights statue. That is he can sue for his visitation rights with his grandchildren. AL is one, but its on shakey legal ground because of the way the legislature worded it.
Butterflair Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 Interesting, I didn't know that. He gets to see them, he comes to my house to see the 2 yr old girl, that son is the one that isn't speaking to him. The 3 yr old grandson lives here and he can see him anytime. He just isn't allowed to take them anywhere she is. So though he sees them, he won't get to travel and do things together.
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