Woggle Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Wait, so is it better or worse than the show? I was in Atlantic City when I was 15 and went to the Jersey Shore, it was kind of cheesy then but it was still fun. I bought a two toned rocker shirt on the boardwalk with an iron on of David Lee Roth....woooooo! It is better than the show. Most people that live here can't stand the spray tanned brats either.
Twenty-ten Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 When I was 22 I was with a guy who didn't want kids (and let it be known if I became pregnant he'd abandon me). At the time I didn't want kids either and was very strong on this. Now I'm not as strong and in fact am leaning towrds having them. Yes!!! The thing is that being 22 and thinking you have your life figured out and thinking you know what will be of you in the long term future is pretty typical of what being 22 is about. I was like that at 22, ask me if I have changed since. YES and a LOT. Though at the core I have not changed who I am and my moral compass has not changed much over the years, the things I wanted and expected out of life sure have changed and some things I can't even believe I am the same person today as that 22 yr old kid. But having said that I don't have any regrets at all for my decisions then. I don't know how I will feel when I am 50 but today, now, I don't regret anything.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Yes!!! The thing is that being 22 and thinking you have your life figured out and thinking you know what will be of you in the long term future is pretty typical of what being 22 is about. I was like that at 22, ask me if I have changed since. YES and a LOT. Though at the core I have not changed who I am and my moral compass has not changed much over the years, the things I wanted and expected out of life sure have changed and some things I can't even believe I am the same person today as that 22 yr old kid. But having said that I don't have any regrets at all for my decisions then. I don't know how I will feel when I am 50 but today, now, I don't regret anything. I've changed so much since then myself. Many of my views have changed and I've become far more conservative. People are always revolving in many ways. I know this couple who are both 55 and always said neither would remarry. They married last year. That's why I never say I'm definitely not going to do something because I may actually do it.
Stung Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 The book is addressing women primarily. Men tend to peak a little bit later in terms of desirability, and can still have a pretty large dating pool well into their 30's. This is partially because men will always have the ability to reproduce no matter how old they are, and because their looks peak in their early 30's as opposed to womens' who peak in their early 20's. If the definition of 'settle' is to keep expectations realistic rather than hold out for Prince Charming with a trust fund and a 9 inch cawk, then yes, women should probably settle. If the definition of 'settle' is to bind yourself legally and financially to someone you don't really love/respect/desire/get along and partner well with just to have a warm body to help pay the mortgage and keep you supplied with sperm, then no, women should never settle. What an unhappy half-life that would make for everyone. As for getting married in your early 20s out of fear of diminishing options, maybe that works for some people...but I hear an awful lot of unhappy stories from people who married early. I can speak only for myself, but I'm forever grateful that I didn't marry any of my significant other's from that timeperiod. My twenties were painful and exciting and taught me a lot; I traveled and moved to different cities, I tried on different careers and had intense love affairs that taught me how to fight and communicate and love and recover from heartbreak; all of those things are a lot harder to do when you're married and building a home and family, and I wouldn't change the experiences for anything. I met my husband when I was thirty and I'm grateful for it because I needed the previous ten years to learn and grow and mature and live it up a little. We didn't marry until I was thirty-four, but I'm pretty sure he wasn't too worried that my meat was rotting. Just my experience.
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