tinklebell Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 There's a guy I've met a few times in my neighborhood and subsequently when we ran into each other again, we chatted and he gave me his business card to call him. Why would guys do that? Instead of asking girls out directly.
Lakeside_runner Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 Because if a girl says 'no, thank you' it is awkward to run into her again especially if it happens often? I am not saying he shouldn't have asked you for the number...
Author tinklebell Posted February 7, 2010 Author Posted February 7, 2010 Could there be other reasons besides awkwardness if the girl declines?
Lakeside_runner Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 I am not sure... this seems a little odd though. I think the usual way it goes is that if a guy runs into you and wants to get to know you better he'd suggest getting coffee sometime. I don't know how often you see each other and how long the chats are.
counterman Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 It shows confidence on his behalf believing that he will call. Also, he leaves it squarely in your hands so if you are really that interested, you would call. Though, a lot of girls would say that they would never call even if interested. It could get awkward if he asked you out and you had said no, but I don't think that's the problem. He could asks just smile and say hello and keep moving if he does not want to chat.
CaliGuy Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 There's a guy I've met a few times in my neighborhood and subsequently when we ran into each other again, we chatted and he gave me his business card to call him. Why would guys do that? Instead of asking girls out directly. Coz most guys are passive/insecure. A business card (to them) doesn't feel like asking a girl out and getting rejected. It's more of a "I'll give you my card to see if you're interested..." I met two girls this week hanging out with friends. I asked for and got both their numbers. It wasn't hard. I am just confident and secure in myself. Even if they had said no it wouldn't have bothered me. Guys just need to stop worrying about rejection and just do their thing. You're always going to get rejected in some way/shape/form. Learn to not let it bother you!
Barky Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 What type of work does he do? Maybe he's not romantically interested in you but wants you to call if you need whatever goods/services he provides.
Author tinklebell Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 I am not sure... this seems a little odd though. I think the usual way it goes is that if a guy runs into you and wants to get to know you better he'd suggest getting coffee sometime. I don't know how often you see each other and how long the chats are. He did say we should go do something and therefore passed me his card. Makes more sense now or? It shows confidence on his behalf believing that he will call. Don't quite understand this sentence. He's confidence that HE would call? What type of work does he do? Maybe he's not romantically interested in you but wants you to call if you need whatever goods/services he provides. He's an investment manager. I'm not in the same industry and we've never discussed work.
boogieboy Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Could there be other reasons besides awkwardness if the girl declines? Whens the last time YOU asked a guy out?
carhill Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Why do guys do this? Why do girls giggle and bat their eyelashes? Who knows? Here's a tip ..... only if your interested... 'xxx-xxxx... call me' FWIW, my stbx had an issue with a creep who caused her to change her phone number and the lady I'm seeing currently didn't give me her number until we had been out a couple times because of bad experiences she's had in the past. I offer my business card (it's actually a 'fun' card I hand out when traveling) to leave control of such dynamics up to the ladies. At our age, women aren't shy and know how to use a phone, or invite me to do so, as appropriate.
Author tinklebell Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Whens the last time YOU asked a guy out? About 10 months ago? Why?
meerkat stew Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 That business card is obviously coated in an obscure kind of pheromonic love potion made from the spittle of tibetan yaks and other ingredients including high fructose corn syrup. Destroy it immediately. Never accept a business card from a man again. This has been a public service announcement.
D-Lish Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Even if I was interested, I wouldn't call a guy if he gave me his business card. I like it when a guy is confident enough to ask for my number.
carhill Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 BTW, I did initially ask the lady I'm seeing for her number and she refused. Since phones are two way devices, just like relationships, I found balance. If no joy, next.
Author tinklebell Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 I'm surprised nobody suspected that he might be already seeing someone. Thoughts?
carhill Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Thank you. I answer to 'nobody' but on a different thread
Author tinklebell Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Thank you. I answer to 'nobody' but on a different thread So you think that's a possibility?
carhill Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Well, unsure, but sure that I f*cked up and thought this was a different thread Is his home phone number on the business card?
boogieboy Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 About 10 months ago? Why? Well you havent done it recently, but if you had to approach every guy to get things going, I'm sure you would do it in the way with the least risk of rejection also.
Author tinklebell Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Well, unsure, but sure that I f*cked up and thought this was a different thread Is his home phone number on the business card? Only his cellphone number. Does it tell you anything?
Author tinklebell Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Well you havent done it recently, but if you had to approach every guy to get things going, I'm sure you would do it in the way with the least risk of rejection also. So you're saying that he was trying to do it in the way with the least risk of rejection?
Author tinklebell Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 In any case, does any LSers think he could be seeing someone else and therefore not directly ask me out?
lucy9216 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 In any case, does any LSers think he could be seeing someone else and therefore not directly ask me out? I personally don't think so because he gave you his number, do you have any other reason to beleive that he would be seeing someone else?
tami-chan Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Well, the guy already mentioned about you guys "doing something together" and gave you his card....I think you are over thinking this. If you don't want to call and take him up on his suggestion, tell him so next time you "bump" into each other. He wants to get to know you more, that's all. Do not read anything more than that. Maybe he is casually going out with other women, you won't know until you actually get to know him better. If you do not call him or mention anything to him soon, he will think you are not interested.
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