Author paleblue Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 ME. i paid every frikken time we went out -except the last time to which i said -lets split it this time -mind you we had not seen each other for about four weeks at that point! she never offered ONCE to pay. and in fact the last couple times we went out she would sit there fiddling around with things kinda making me feel like -hey arent you going to pay for this??? i felt no appreciation. its like she felt entitled to it or something. not even a peck on the cheek after all this time. i am getting mad thinking about this. and as the day goes on i am even more glad that i said see yaaaaaaaaaa.
Greenpeacer Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I'd take care to a chick flick and try and hold her hands given its V day. If she pulls away, then... you know. You can even say after all these months and the pictures of the showers and you cant even hold hands? If you are bold you can ask her " what kind of game are you playing?" If its more than 3 or 4months I would Likely ask that. If its 6 months, for sure ask that. Holding hands doesn't mean she is bad person. you can tell her that. If it works out, try and kiss her the next week etc...
Author paleblue Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 thanks for the optimism greenpeacer. it just feels pointless to even bother trying anymore. she has killled my mood on just about every level. now its time for her to pony up and show me something solid if she is interested. and i mean it has to be good at this point. no more teasing or games. i mean really, is spending a little time together so much to ask for ? no way. shouldnt even have to ask for it. she should just want too! i dont even remember how to get to her place anymore! i was only there ONCE in six months. we never even hung out alone! does that sound normal to you?? and mind you we only live about a half hour away. this is Not long distance. i am telling you i am one of the most easy going, reasonable persons you would ever meet. girls have come over to my house for our first meeting! and it was just fine. so that right there i think tells you something about me. relationships are also about spending time together. we dont. she is apparently under some ridiculous notion you need to be buddies for a year and a half -to- two years before anything happens. i say good luck. i thought she was exaggerating about that. i thought things would move along based on how we felt about things, not according to a schedule. ya, the girl is teasing me with shower pictures, but yet she wont kiss me? something is seriously wrong with her programming. not even a kiss after 6 months, what a joke!!!! PRUDE ALERT. V day eh? that's assuming we even talk again. because i will be damned if i am reaching out at this point. no my friend, ball is in her court at this point. i plan on doing what i am doing right now with her - and that is nothing anymore
Ilovehim Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Sex is very important to some girls, including me. However I dont see why she wont even kiss you and it has been 6 months? Hmm..that raises an eyebrow. I'm sorry. Either she's extremely conservative (but then be flirty about joining her in the shwoer) weird...it's kind of weird. I definetely understand waiting for sex and waiting for a relationship. that part makes perfect sense to me..but the whole not doing ANYTHING at all, not even making out...i don't understand it.
soulm8 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 OP, were you even exclusive? I can't help but think she's playing the field and teasing numerous guys... like an attention whore. It's absolutely not normal to not want to see your BF at least once a week.
Author paleblue Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 sex is important in a relationship. if you dont want to be with someone physically - its over! intimacy helps bond you together, heart, soul and mind. i dont even understand how she has even met anyone to be honest. all i can hypothesize is she knew them as friends for a few years first and then hooked up when the opportunity presented itself. what she was doing on match.com is beyond me. after we met - i asked her, soooo are we keeping our options open? she said she WAS NOT playing the field. she said she WAS NOT keeping her options open. not too long after that she started acting unusually busy - sooo i googled her screen name - i found her still active on another dating site she claims to have told me about, but yet i dont remember. her excuse- i just like talking to the internet stalkers or something along those lines. the next time i googled her name - a week or so later all the listings were gone. i thought it was a positive sign, when i reality the girl probably just hide her profile. so ya, i would not be surprised one bit if she is attention whoring with others. no, its not normal. not at all. oh ya, want to know something else weird?? christmas the girl drove to my house, dropped off cookies on my doorstep, when i was home mind you, didnt even knock and just left. then 5 minutes later i get a text - santa dropped something on your doorstep. i was floored. PSYCHO ALERT. i am soooooo glad i said good bye. i dont feel sad one bit now that i am talking about it here. i should have said good bye about 5 months ago.
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