Devil Dog Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 All my life, and I can't fathom why, I've viewed my life as a success or failure based on being in a relationship. I don't ever feel the need for commitment, at least not consciously, and I've operated independantly for the (very) large majority of my teen years and adult life. This of course led to a lot of self-confidence issues, misconceptions about myself, and an out-right disbelief that anyone could be interested in me, despite obvious signs of interest in hindsight. It was ultimately the reason why the one relationship I've had failed. But I've recognized these issues and have dealt with them. At this point, I'm doing all that I can to prepare for my job, and my career, I've done what I need to for my schooling, so I feel as if I'm set in the other big areas of my life. Don't get me wrong, I love my job, and it brings me joy, I've only been happy like this a few times in my life. At the same time, I've felt like there is a void in my life, because there's no one to share my experiences with, no one's day is made when they see me, no one who is waiting for my next call, no one who wants to be intimate with me. I feel like I'm missing out, and being missed out on. I guess that just about says it all.
FieryDream Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Maybe join a club or something within a group. try something you might not like particuarly, but other people talking and having fun with you, makes it good. also join a group that is for both men and women. if it's just for women, you'll probably find friendship in a friendly way. if you join something you've never tryed or you actually quite like, you'll meet others similar to you. fun is always needed, you need a rest from work some of the time. I understand as at this minute I'm going through something like that. I think that you may be suffering from loneliness. sure, you don't people around you constantly to be happy, but you somehow feel a kind of empty uncomfortable feeling around others. You feel as if there's a whole still in your life, and when you try to fill that whole with people and friendship, nothing happens. It's like your looking through a glass wall at the other people who feel comforted by one another. but you yourself don't feel comfortable when with people. Sometimes it stops you from feeling happy, sometimes it dosen't. Maybe this is not what your feeling at all, but it's a hard thing to explain.
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