blah. went out tonight with someone and it only makes me miss my ex even more

[Homies Over Hoes]

so i went on what i thought was a date tonight with someone. turns out she has a boyfriend and just likes attention o rsomething. only makes me miss my ex even more... finding someone that isn't my ex is so painful. what do you guys do when you get discouraged from rejection from the opposite sex?

[McGrupp]

keep looking. girls are a nice distraction but dont expect to meet someone as "special" tomorrow

[USMCHokie]

If you're still not over your ex and don't think you're ready to be dating again, then don't date. Go out with friends...go out with yourself...

 

I'm about 6 months out...still not the slightest bit interested in dating...

 

The time will come when you are ready...and you'll know...

[dreamingoftigers]

Me, I sit in a corner and cry until I get sick of it, and then just get up and try again....

[Perhaps]

That's the point of it all... you don't know when it'll happen. It's not as special when you're looking for it and you find it. It's more awesome when you're not thinking about it and BAM.

 

Don't force anything; like the posters above me said, if you're not ready, don't push for it.

 

 

Cheers.

[Chitowngirl]

Agreed.

I was always told the easiest way to get over someone is to date someone else right away..well that worked at first, and then when I started finding out things about my "great new boyfriend who was soo much better than my ex"..I started missing my crazy ex like crazy. After I dumped the rebound (with no tear shed) I started to miss my ex even more than I ever have before! So..I guess it backfired! I'm 8 months out and no desire to have a serious relationship. Never felt like this before.

 

If you're still not over your ex and don't think you're ready to be dating again, then don't date. Go out with friends...go out with yourself...

 

I'm about 6 months out...still not the slightest bit interested in dating...

 

The time will come when you are ready...and you'll know...

[USMCHokie]

Agreed.

I was always told the easiest way to get over someone is to date someone else right away...

 

 

Well, I was told repeatedly last weekend that "the best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone else..."

 

[skydiveaddict]

Well, I was told repeatedly last weekend that "the best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone else..."

 

 

 

That doesn't work at least not for me

[skydiveaddict]

so i went on what i thought was a date tonight with someone. turns out she has a boyfriend and just likes attention o rsomething. only makes me miss my ex even more... finding someone that isn't my ex is so painful. what do you guys do when you get discouraged from rejection from the opposite sex?

 

 

 

I tend to get gunshy. I've really never been able hop from one girl to the next. Like right now for me, I'm still trying to get over her and I have ZERO intrest in other girls

[USMCHokie]

That doesn't work at least not for me

 

 

Doesn't work for me either. Let's just say that my friend was "disappointed" enough to smack me across the face when I told him I didn't hook up with anyone when I went on a cruise alone back during the Christmas holiday.

 

But he's only looking out for me...

[skydiveaddict]

Doesn't work for me either. Let's just say that my friend was "disappointed" enough to smack me across the face when I told him I didn't hook up with anyone when I went on a cruise alone back during the Christmas holiday.

 

But he's only looking out for me...

 

 

I guess I'm weird in this respect (for a man anyway), but when I hook it up with a girl some level of emotional attachment always seems to be there too. I guess that's just the way I am

[skydiveaddict]

song explains my feelings to a tee.

[skydiveaddict]

Agreed.

I was always told the easiest way to get over someone is to date someone else right away..well that worked at first, and then when I started finding out things about my "great new boyfriend who was soo much better than my ex"..I started missing my crazy ex like crazy. After I dumped the rebound (with no tear shed) I started to miss my ex even more than I ever have before! So..I guess it backfired! I'm 8 months out and no desire to have a serious relationship. Never felt like this before.

 

 

Yea I think

the rebound thing is an all around losing proposition, I think if you get Dumped no rebound guy will help cure that pain. The only way wounds like this can heal is through time.

[counterman]

As the other posters have said, starting to date other girls when you are not over your ex-girlfriend will not benefit you. Initially, it might seem great that you are starting to date again but later on you realise that there are some things you are still missing and that even being with someone you are still lonely inside.

 

Try not to force yourself to meet new girls and to date currently. Rather, just focus all your attention on yourself. You will feel fine someone that someone special but not when you are completely ready.

[GrayClouds]

At least you know

you were taken by a pro

I know just how you feel

She talked a perfect game

deflecting all the blame

you took the jack

and changed the flat

and got behind the wheel--

 

now you're

Driving sideways

taken in by the scenery

as you're propelled along

And your companion

will not help you to navigate

for fear she may be wrong

 

And you will say

that you're making headway

and put it in overdrive

but you're mistaking speed

for getting what you need

and never even noticing

you never do arrive

 

cause you're

Driving sideways

if you roll down the window you'll see

you're where you don't belong

And your companion

will not help you to navigate

for fear she may be wrong

 

And you're powered by

the hopeful lie

that it's just around the bend

and when this, by default

comes screeching to a halt

let's hope that you

know what to do

to start it up again