YloveY Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, just stumbled upon it tonight and thought I'll give it a try. Well I broke up with my ex last week and we share an apt (both names on the lease) so we're still living together and it's driving me insane. He's acting very nonchalant about the breakup and we've discussed how were feeling and he doesn't seem to phased about it ending. He told me he believes that we'll find our way back to each other and that our timing is bad. Here I am hurting and crying everyday while he's watching the games and . I have to get out of here so that I can have some sanity. I had to end this relationship b/c he had cut off sex with me and was not being affectionate with me at all. Yet he claims he wants to marry me but right now he can't be that guy b/c of a lot of internal struggles he's coping with. I'm sad as crap so please any advice thoughts are welcomed.
GrayClouds Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 Sorry about your breakup. You really need to find some space away from him to heal. Stay with friends or family. If you can leave and is stuck in the place suggest he go to friends or family. His attitude may be self protection but it sounds as if he has been out of the relationship for a long time. Any chance he has soemthing on the side? Hi s behavior would suggest it. Try going NC as much as you can and focusi on things important to yourself. Try to get expercise and east well. Read the following: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Keep post and good luck.
Author YloveY Posted February 7, 2010 Author Posted February 7, 2010 Thanks GrayClouds we live in a city were neither of us have family, I've decided to go and stay in a room for rent in about 2weeks b/c he's using my truck (add'l car) until he can get his car fixed on the 18th then I'm out. I don't think i can do NC until I'm out of the house. Tonight I showed a lot of desperation and anger b/c I'm pissed about his attitude.
GrayClouds Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 Well in the interim proctice LC, limited contact. Keep thing polite and converstations short. Do not discuss the relationship or feeling. Partice all of the other things on thoses links to help you get stronger exercise (it really does help) find some activites to get you out of the apt...a class, hobbie, join a gym, hang with friends. Getting piss is good. It is telling yourslef you deserve better. Allow yourself to feel all of the emotions, anger, sadness, ect but then let them go. Hang in there, it does get better.
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