Socalbeachman Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 So heres my story... my GF of 6 months has a really good guy friend...thats cool except i have never met him. I have the same relationship with one of my friends who's a girl(my gf has met her). However, when they greet each other they kiss....IS THAT OK?? I'm not overreacting right? I think it is basically inappropriate but she thinks its menaingless(which it may be) but still hard to handle. PLEASE HELP
2sunny Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 how do you know they kiss if you've never met him? what has their relationship been like since they've known each other? is there a reason you haven't met him? i would venture to say that you should! then, keep your eyes open for body language between the two of them as well as how he interacts with you. her interaction with him there is what should give you an idea of how friendly there relationship is. if she's unwilling to have you meet him you need to be concerned. what does her correspondence with him entail? do they call each other, text, or email? have you ever been privy to what they discuss or overheard her tone when she talks to him? these are clues for you to take note of... any info you can give will be helpful to understand what is going on with her friend.
OnlyJake Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 So heres my story... my GF of 6 months has a really good guy friend...thats cool except i have never met him. I have the same relationship with one of my friends who's a girl(my gf has met her). However, when they greet each other they kiss....IS THAT OK?? I'm not overreacting right? I think it is basically inappropriate but she thinks its menaingless(which it may be) but still hard to handle. PLEASE HELP Proper etiquette (which most people don't follow) dictates that a kiss on the cheek is the appropriate greeting/au revior for a friend. So what kind of kiss are we talking about? A peck, or a makeout session?
hoping2heal Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 So heres my story... my GF of 6 months has a really good guy friend...thats cool except i have never met him. I have the same relationship with one of my friends who's a girl(my gf has met her). However, when they greet each other they kiss....IS THAT OK?? I'm not overreacting right? I think it is basically inappropriate but she thinks its menaingless(which it may be) but still hard to handle. PLEASE HELP I don't know something is fishy here. You have never met the guy. You haven't seen them kiss when they greet one another, but she obviously has told you they do? I don't know, some people might be fine and dandy about it- I wouldn't want my guy friend kissing me even if it WAS just a peck. Still, it's really bizarre that you have never MET this guy..
sagetalk Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 If he's straight and an ex of hers, then you're cruising down highway lame at 90 mph.
carhill Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 'I'm BBQ'ing ribs this weekend. Invite your friend over. We can have beers and murder animal flesh' Ugg
Gcm Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 So heres my story... my GF of 6 months has a really good guy friend...thats cool except i have never met him. I have the same relationship with one of my friends who's a girl(my gf has met her). However, when they greet each other they kiss....IS THAT OK?? I'm not overreacting right? I think it is basically inappropriate but she thinks its menaingless(which it may be) but still hard to handle. PLEASE HELP Seeing as you mentioned the kissing part in your post, I'm going to assume it's more than a kiss on the cheek. If that's the case, it's not acceptable at all; that is of course unless the guy is gay. Only then would I make an exception.
carhill Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 Depends; if she's a physical person or one from a culture where kissing is a big part of interaction (e.g. like some of my Armenian former in-laws), then her actions may be 'normal' for her within her social group and lifestyle. I'm more concerned that the BF hasn't met this friend who means so much to her. Ribs and beer are a great way to get to know a guy. Have her tell him what beer you like (dinner gift). Mark your territory
counterman Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 Depends; if she's a physical person or one from a culture where kissing is a big part of interaction (e.g. like some of my Armenian former in-laws), then her actions may be 'normal' for her within her social group and lifestyle. I'm more concerned that the BF hasn't met this friend who means so much to her. Ribs and beer are a great way to get to know a guy. Have her tell him what beer you like (dinner gift). Mark your territory I love your idea! No words need to be spoken between you two and there is an understanding of who's territory your girlfriend's guy friend is in.
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