McGrupp Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 so i borrowed its a breakup because its broken form my sister. anyho in the Appendix its like how to break up with your BF if you have to. she really didnt do anything right. said i would still have a chance, still texted and called, and i forget the rest but of the 5 things they suggest she pretty much did the opposite which made my pain a sh*tload worse. thanks bitch!
LostInLimbo Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Don't let it bing you down, lesson learned. Look what I went through, if you decide to read my started threads.. Best of Luck LiL
bananaboat11 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Trust me... I know what a bad breakup feels like too, MG... I feel your pain bro. Did your ex at least do it to your face? I was dumped over facebook...
LostInLimbo Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Trust me... I know what a bad breakup feels like too, MG... I feel your pain bro. Did your ex at least do it to your face? I was dumped over facebook... Over FB? thats Sh**ty Bananaboat
EricaH329 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Trust me... I know what a bad breakup feels like too, MG... I feel your pain bro. Did your ex at least do it to your face? I was dumped over facebook... I was broken up with both times by my ex fiance through an online IM. And although it's very disrepectful and cowardly, i'm beginning to see the bright side to it. At least my last physical memory of him isn't one where he is breaking my heart.
HeavenOrHell Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 My ex went about things the RIGHT way with dumping me, he's been sensitive all along, but believe me it does not help, just makes me realise even more what a wonderful person I have lost. I wish I had something to hate about him. I feel angry that he left, angry that he fancies others, angry at the injustice of it all, but he's done nothing wrong and I wish he had so I could hate him for it.
Author McGrupp Posted February 7, 2010 Author Posted February 7, 2010 nope on the phone and I had to call her. like i called her to see how she was and she said it was over. shocked! shouldve just never talked to her again right there.
thepulse27 Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 I got an email with the reasons, most of which turned out to be bulls**t, and an invitation to call her (why, I don't know). Do you guys think that when we fall in love again, if that one falls through that we'll handle ourselves a little differently next time? Like skip the days/weeks/months of calling and pleading and get straight to the NC and bitching about it on LS? I dunno why that just thought just occured to me.
Author McGrupp Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 yeah i would walk away first when i knew things are going south next time. its sucks to know you couldve had the upper hand and did once but lost it and now they have it and control everything and look at you like a little bitch.
DenverBachelor Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 thanks bitch! Good. You're in the depths of the anger stage. Your journey is almost complete. It has been almost four months for me and I'm done with the anger. Once you get past the anger stage, you'll get into the "indifference" stage where you occasionally think of them from time to time but with a general indifference. There won't be heartache, anger, resentment or pain. You'll look back and see everything for what it was -- as if you were the producer, director and actor of some amazing movie that you can now watch without the emotional attachment. Keep up the good work!
Author McGrupp Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 re-read the appendix, its says if your going to dump them, dont bring them down, ie dont say **** about them personally. i got leveled for stuff i didnt even know i did and then spent months trying to fix those things only to realize these things made me who i am...
DenverBachelor Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 re-read the appendix, its says if your going to dump them, dont bring them down, ie dont say **** about them personally. i got leveled for stuff i didnt even know i did and then spent months trying to fix those things only to realize these things made me who i am... Yeah but you can't fault the dumper like that. Do you think she was thinking, "hey, I'm about to breakup with McGrupp, but before I do, I better run to the store and pick up a good book on breaking up so I don't do it incorrectly." Come on -- it is over with. You need to focus your energy off of her and towards your future. At this point, it doesn't matter if she pointed a paintball gun at your groin, pulled the trigger and said, "so long, suckaaaaa!" because it is IN THE PAST.
DenverBachelor Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Do you guys think that when we fall in love again, if that one falls through that we'll handle ourselves a little differently next time? Like skip the days/weeks/months of calling and pleading and get straight to the NC and bitching about it on LS? I dunno why that just thought just occured to me. Why not just skip the entire relationship and get more practice with breaking up. You know, go straight from, "you want to grab coffee next Friday" to "I don't think this is working out, you like Moche Latte's and I like my coffee black. Don't call me. Now get out of my Starbucks."
Author McGrupp Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 i think yer right DB. i cant really knock her, stay mad for **** she said, but she did kinda leave me hanging. im sure she was just going with her heart, and didnt really know what to do, how to let me go without hurting me etc. that being said i wish her and I communicated better. we both were emotional and said things im sure we both regret. but yer right, what happened is in the past and i need to not hold any bitterness towards her. i still miss her though. dont think about her as much as i used to. it so weird how time goes on.
DenverBachelor Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 i think yer right DB. i cant really knock her, stay mad for **** she said, but she did kinda leave me hanging. im sure she was just going with her heart, and didnt really know what to do, how to let me go without hurting me etc. that being said i wish her and I communicated better. we both were emotional and said things im sure we both regret. but yer right, what happened is in the past and i need to not hold any bitterness towards her. i still miss her though. dont think about her as much as i used to. it so weird how time goes on. I think part of the process of reclaiming one's dignity after a long-term relationship ends is knocking the other person down or making them a villain. But in the end, you figure out that you were two amazing people that either came together at the wrong time or just had too many internal differences to continue forward. Someone made the decision to end it and that's their choice. We must respect it and move on and eventually you'll understand that you don't have to trash who they were as a person just to bring yourself back up off the ground. Eventually you can tell yourself that you shared a lot of great times and memories with an amazing person and it added something to your life. Eventually you'll figure out that the toughest type of love is the hardest type to carry from day to day and that all bridges eventually collapse unless maintained. Eventually you'll just figure out that the world is still an amazing place with delights to satiate the most diverse pleasures. Everywhere in life you go, you're always going to go there with yourself. Some people jump in from the static, follow for a bit and then jump back into the static. At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself what you learned and why that particular experience happened to you and what lessons you gained from the experiences.
thepulse27 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Good. You're in the depths of the anger stage. Your journey is almost complete. It has been almost four months for me and I'm done with the anger. Once you get past the anger stage, you'll get into the "indifference" stage where you occasionally think of them from time to time but with a general indifference. There won't be heartache, anger, resentment or pain. You'll look back and see everything for what it was -- as if you were the producer, director and actor of some amazing movie that you can now watch without the emotional attachment. I can't wait to be there. But it's nice to hear some validation for the anger and bitterness that occasionally bubbles up. Nice to know it's not too unhealthy. Why not just skip the entire relationship and get more practice with breaking up. You know, go straight from, "you want to grab coffee next Friday" to "I don't think this is working out, you like Moche Latte's and I like my coffee black. Don't call me. Now get out of my Starbucks." hehehe. This is genius. Maybe we should run classes like this, sounds like alternative therapy. A bit like those laughter classes but with a slightly darker tone.
sunrae Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 so i borrowed its a breakup because its broken form my sister. anyho in the Appendix its like how to break up with your BF if you have to. she really didnt do anything right. said i would still have a chance, still texted and called, and i forget the rest but of the 5 things they suggest she pretty much did the opposite which made my pain a sh*tload worse. thanks bitch! OMG.. That really made me laugh out loud, and the people in my office, down the hall are wondering whats going on.. Thanks for the laugh today, I needed that. All the guys who have dumbed me sucked at it, and I am sure I did to.. I hate letting people down, so I suck at it...
Silver_star Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 so i borrowed its a breakup because its broken form my sister. anyho in the Appendix its like how to break up with your BF if you have to. she really didnt do anything right. said i would still have a chance, still texted and called, and i forget the rest but of the 5 things they suggest she pretty much did the opposite which made my pain a sh*tload worse. thanks bitch! That really is an awesome book. I bought it after my breakup. It helped in what i should NOT do after being dumped. I think they should target one (book) for guys too.
Sadbutrelieved Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Trust me... I know what a bad breakup feels like too, MG... I feel your pain bro. Did your ex at least do it to your face? I was dumped over facebook... Bananaboat, I was dumped over Facebook too. A friend of his forwarded his new page showing who he is in a relationship with, and it wasn't me. What cowards they are
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