carhill Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 In my case, I proposed after 11 months of dating and the engagement was around 9 months. We were 41 when we got married. Lasted nine years. We both had been dating people met online and IRL. This was back when 'internet' was dial-up modems and picture was a true bonus. The lady I'm seeing now presented no surprises from her online presentation; she said she was happy that I looked like my picture and that she has met some 'creeps' online, as she said she's been single about eight years. I believe her. To me, online dating is just another avenue. I meet women at the store, in restaurants, at the post office, on airplanes, at car rallies. Thanks for the tip about the craft shows. They have huge ones at the coast but I was always married when attending so didn't notice who ran the booths. TBH, in the past, no matter the 'activity' (like volunteering, softball, cycling, etc.), I invariably met no women other than married or attached women. Of course, that was a long time ago and such things might have changed. My best advice is just to try different things and see what happens. It's a numbers game.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted February 7, 2010 Author Posted February 7, 2010 You're a graduate student? What are you studying? I got my MA in Communications (waste of time but another story). Yeah sports events might help, especially if looking to attract an athletic woman. Even if you don't meet a girl you might meet people who becomes friends and they might know someone. I'm finishing a Ph.D. in math. The job market has been totally sh***ty for the past two years so I am really lucky to have gotten a job for the next three years. Everything points to the fact that in three years the situation will significantly improve. I am just tired of meeting girls who first say that they wouldn't mind to move somewhere with someone - and then when things become serious they suddenly realize that they can't live more than an hour away from her big siss. This scenario happened to me for the second time recently. Correct me if I'm wrong but ultimately if your sister is married she'll have a life on her own and you'll have a life on your own. These days the world becomes smaller and smaller every day and you can fly from the West coast to the East coast in 6 hours. So it's not such a big trip that you can't make it every now and then, right? And I'm talking more often than twice a year.
Kristine Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 (edited) I've visually very honest with my appearance on-line. Although I was about to take some more current professional pictures, I did throw in some snapshots (full-body) because I don't have the perfect body and I met the guy I'm now seeing. I was on another site and guys I wasn't interested in chased me so to speak, and had a few offer sex, which wasn't my dating goal. I had just switched back to match.com and met the current guy. Timing was impeccible. And he's cute cute cute IMO and well my mom thinks so too she had to tell him he's cute. LOL He also tells me I'm beautiful, talks about how cute I am. Really he's a sweetheart. Hoping it lasts. Edited February 7, 2010 by Kristine
OnlyJake Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 I am just tired of meeting girls who first say that they wouldn't mind to move somewhere with someone - and then when things become serious they suddenly realize that they can't live more than an hour away from her big siss. This scenario happened to me for the second time recently. Correct me if I'm wrong but ultimately if your sister is married she'll have a life on her own and you'll have a life on your own. These days the world becomes smaller and smaller every day and you can fly from the West coast to the East coast in 6 hours. So it's not such a big trip that you can't make it every now and then, right? And I'm talking more often than twice a year. I understand that you're hurt, but to be fair, you do realize that under the right circumstances (ie, for the right person), these girls would move somewhere with someone, right? Second, I'm guessing that you're not very close with your own family, to have taken the stance you describe in your second paragraph that I quoted here. I won't get into this though, as this is already off-topic. But, consider yourself corrected, because you are wrong. It sounds as though you won't have any problems meeting women, online or off once you move. A word of caution if you choose to date someone you meet at (for example) coed soccer (particularly if she's on your own team): if things end badly, or if either of you are awkward, you will probably end up having to quit the team, and not participate in any other sports with that group of people.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted February 7, 2010 Author Posted February 7, 2010 I understand that you're hurt, but to be fair, you do realize that under the right circumstances (ie, for the right person), these girls would move somewhere with someone, right? I admit that it's true. I'm probably bitter since no matter what I do I keep loosing against 'the sisters'. However, maybe if we've met earlier, say two years ago, the outcome might have been different. It's just I didn't expect her to decide right away. I merely wanted a chance to see where things may go and find out if we may have a future together or not. Second, I'm guessing that you're not very close with your own family, to have taken the stance you describe in your second paragraph that I quoted here. I won't get into this though, as this is already off-topic. But, consider yourself corrected, because you are wrong. Kind of true. My family is on a different continent, 7 time zones away. I admit that what I wrote is full of emotions and unjust. I stand corrected, sir! It sounds as though you won't have any problems meeting women, online or off once you move. I'd prefer off-line. I hope you're right! A word of caution if you choose to date someone you meet at (for example) coed soccer (particularly if she's on your own team): if things end badly, or if either of you are awkward, you will probably end up having to quit the team, and not participate in any other sports with that group of people. I'm aware of that
Sith Apprentice Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 As in the title... I mean it's ultimately all about looks on the pictures, right? 1. Single mothers looking for a meal ticket - 20-25% 2. Fat obese women who think they deserve a guy that looks like Brad Pitt with the Brain of Einstein - 50% 3. Attention whores just curious to see what types of responses they can get with no intentions of meeting any guys offline 10-15% 5. Emotional problems/ on meds - 20% 6. High quality, attractive, emotionally and financially stable - 0%
greatgirlfriend Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 1. Single mothers looking for a meal ticket - 20-25% 2. Fat obese women who think they deserve a guy that looks like Brad Pitt with the Brain of Einstein - 50% 3. Attention whores just curious to see what types of responses they can get with no intentions of meeting any guys offline 10-15% 5. Emotional problems/ on meds - 20% 6. High quality, attractive, emotionally and financially stable - 0% The same is true of men though. I've seen obese guys who think they deserve to date Angelina Jolie looklikes, I've seen guys looking for mothers for their kids, and several that are obviously mentally deranged. I once met a guy for a date and he proceeded to tell me about his mental problems (he had bipolar and suicidal thoughts). After we went out he told me if I didn't become his girfriend he was going to kill himself.
Hot Carl Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 After reading your thread about your past as a porn queen, I was going to tell you the same thing.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 After reading your thread about your past as a porn queen, I was going to tell you the same thing. Making one amateur video hardly qualifies as a porn queen. Besides, I'm not sure what you mean since I'm not suicidal or trying to get higher standards of men than I deserve.
D-Lish Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 As in the title... I mean it's ultimately all about looks on the pictures, right? Yes, for me it's about the pics first and foremost- but the notion of what is attractive isn't universal. My friend's and I all have different types of guys we are attracted to.
Hot Carl Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 If you don't become my girlfriend, I'll kill myself.
DollWelch Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 As in the title... I mean it's ultimately all about looks on the pictures, right? Yes (more or less). If a woman says "No", then there is certainly something "Off" about her -or she's lying. Usually the best places to meet women, are the unexpected places. For instance, grocery stores, book stores, and public festivals. These may not be very effective all the time, but if you keep your eyes open and deliver a good approach that doesn't reek insanity, then you can pull it off. Try the local park, if you have a dog. I have heard that's also a good way to meet women and for your pet to meet a furry friend too. You seem like an educated, intelligent and down-to-Earth type of man, and shouldn't be having a hard time finding a suitable woman for you. Keep looking and be patient, and you'll eventually find a great woman.
Stung Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Thanks for the statistic. 17% is not much... It'd be interesting to know what the age distribution and demographics are as well, like for instance 'most of the 17%' were people who are widowers/divorced and older than 40 e.g. I used to meet most of my dates and boyfriends through social networking, friends of friends at exhibits, events or parties etc., or from classes I took in things like art/music or upgrading my certifications. I went out with a few guys who approached me publicly in bookstores or at concerts, but only ever had one real relationship that started in a bar. However, I met my husband online at OkCupid; I was his highest match within 1000 miles. At the time we met I was thirty and he was thirty-five; neither of us had ever been married, but neither of us was desperate, either.
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