Rubberducky Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I recently got married at 30 years old and there is a sweet young chick who's coming onto me at work. She has done this on numerous occasions and even waited for me after my shift ended once. I'm confused because she told me that she respects the marriage I'm in and doesn't want any drama. She is engaged yet she keeps flirting and suggesting we have dinner etc. She is 21 and looks great, I'm trying to be good but she's so tempting. Thanks for your replies.
Art_Critic Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Well rubberducky.. this is all about you and not her.. You are the one married not her... Why do you seem to have a boundary issue in your own marriage this quickly ? Tell her you are not interested as you are married.. end of story.. Did this really require an internet post to figure out or are you trolling ?
Author Rubberducky Posted February 6, 2010 Author Posted February 6, 2010 Not a troll, just wanted some advice.
Art_Critic Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Not a troll, just wanted some advice. Tell her you are not interested as you are married.. simple...
zwieback.toast Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 You need therapy dude. You recently were married, the first skank that bats her eyes at you, and you're ready to break your vows? How would you like it if your wife was doing what you're doing? As for the skank, I would look her straight in the eye and tell her thusly: "You look like a very nice girl. However, you're engaged, and only a cheating skank would try to go out to dinner with a married man behind her fiance's back. I'm married, so I'm not interested in anyone but my wife; but even if I wasn't married, the last person on earth I would want to go out with is a cheating skank like you. Don't ever do this again or I will tell your fiance what kind of a cheating skank you really are." She should leave you alone after this little speech. However, maybe you should have this speech tatooed on your wrist just to remind you what you are supposed to say in these situations should something similar ever recur.
sid3 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I agree, you need some therapy. Maybe figure out if you should stay married. It sounds like you made a big mistake if your tempted so easily.
ducknrun Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 Yea most things like that start happening when you are off the market. It’s what you want of this. If you happy in your marriage there shouldn’t be a problem. Be proud you’re married and tell her that and that you’re not interested. Being married maybe a little scary and if you are having feelings of some sort you should share that with your partner.
Author Rubberducky Posted February 7, 2010 Author Posted February 7, 2010 Thanks again for the advice. I thought it was really odd to get that kinda advice from a member who's username is 'DickNRun' but then I re-read and saw that is was actually DuckNRun. Anyways, I'm recently married but my wife and I have been together for 7 years total. I can't help my wondering eye and when these young women practically throw themselves @ me it's tough to behave. I've never cheated on my wife before but now it's like almost every lady friend I have wants to sleep with me. Maybe I'm better lookin since I'm a little older? Or maybe I'm more confident since I'm married. Who knows- all I know is this ain't my imagination, my buddies have even mentioned they've noticed women digging me. Where were all these ladies when I was single?!!
Dexter Morgan Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I'm confused because she told me that she respects the marriage I'm in and doesn't want any drama. She is engaged yet she keeps flirting and suggesting we have dinner etc. she tells you she respects the marriage because she probably thinks you'll be more interested if you think she has at least some scruples. wolf in sheep's clothing She is 21 and looks great, I'm trying to be good but she's so tempting. maybe you shouldn't have gotten married with an attitude like that. maybe your a wolf in sheep's clothing too.
Dexter Morgan Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Thanks again for the advice. I thought it was really odd to get that kinda advice from a member who's username is 'DickNRun' but then I re-read and saw that is was actually DuckNRun. Anyways, I'm recently married but my wife and I have been together for 7 years total. I can't help my wondering eye and when these young women practically throw themselves @ me it's tough to behave. being attracted to other people is natural. the difference in a man that is a keeper and one that isn't is one of them can admire the looks of someone else without any sort of temptation.
Author Rubberducky Posted February 24, 2010 Author Posted February 24, 2010 How is everyone doing today? Just an update on this matter, I haven't cheated with this chick but we have done almost everything else. Kissing, fondleing, spooning (while clothed) She's a virgin and is saving it for marriage. We've got to stop teasing each other and to be honest I don't know what she wants from me... I mean why would she pursue me and make out with me but not follow thru?
scatterd Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 She is playing with you.You are going to lose your wife maybe when she finds out.You can move on and find out.Then when this girl is done playing you will have to settle because your faithful wife left you.Temptaion is put here for a reason and this will be a big regret.Why tell you it seems you are doing it anyway.your laying with fire...
scatterd Posted February 24, 2010 Posted February 24, 2010 Oh by the way what you are doing is cheating.which causes DD and problems.good luck rubber duck.
artchick88 Posted February 25, 2010 Posted February 25, 2010 How is everyone doing today? Just an update on this matter, I haven't cheated with this chick but we have done almost everything else. Kissing, fondleing, spooning (while clothed) She's a virgin and is saving it for marriage. We've got to stop teasing each other and to be honest I don't know what she wants from me... I mean why would she pursue me and make out with me but not follow thru? ummmmm.... this is cheating.
Author Rubberducky Posted March 9, 2010 Author Posted March 9, 2010 Thanks for the kindhearted advice. I've since broken off things with the other chick and we've agreed to not let it happen again. We never had sex- I'm glad it didn't happen. Hopefully I can fall back in love with my wife and move on.
RedCherries Posted March 12, 2010 Posted March 12, 2010 Wait, you say you just recently got married but then in your last post you say "hopefully I can fall back in love with my wife." Were you not in love with her when you married her? Oy...
Author Rubberducky Posted March 14, 2010 Author Posted March 14, 2010 We got married about a year ago when she got pregnant. This ain't somethin' I'm proud of, I know its really screwed up.
RedCherries Posted March 14, 2010 Posted March 14, 2010 Hey, i'm not here to judge! Just glad you're back on track. Good luck.
sid3 Posted March 15, 2010 Posted March 15, 2010 We got married about a year ago when she got pregnant. This ain't somethin' I'm proud of, I know its really screwed up. That doesn't make it exceptable behavior, but it does somewhat explain it, makes sense why after such a short time married you'd be attracted to another woman so quickly. Sounds like you tried to do the right thing by getting married, hope it works out for you.
Author Rubberducky Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 As some of you might have guessed things progressed between the mistress and I. Why is it so difficult for me to say No? Other than her being 10 yrs younger and gorgeous...
Eoweniel Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 As some of you might have guessed things progressed between the mistress and I. Why is it so difficult for me to say No? Other than her being 10 yrs younger and gorgeous... She's a virgin and is saving it for marriage... Lol... Must be the biggest skank ever, who only lied to you, so she could thrive off the fact that she managed to seduce a married man. And you are obviously very gullible. Eitherway I hope for the sake of your wife that she somehow finds out, so she can find someone who treats her better and doesn't cheat. Why the heck do people get married if they can't even stick to simple monogamy.
Woman In Blue Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 As some of you might have guessed things progressed between the mistress and I. Why is it so difficult for me to say No? Other than her being 10 yrs younger and gorgeous... Then you should probably be posting in the The Other Man/Woman boards where you'll be amongst "like minded" folks. I just knew you were a stud the minute you said "chick" in your first post.
Author Rubberducky Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Eiweniol, obviously you didn't read the whole topic here. I'm not trying to make excuses but nobody is perfect. I just wanted some advise, not to be judged FYI. Thanks for the reply WomaninBlue.
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