diddynonbop Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 How do you break up with someone who you care the world about? My girl cares about me, literally more than anything in her world. I love her too..... but I don't love her the way she loves me. there is no other person in the picture or anything like that. I honestly just feel that i have lost myself a lot in trying to be there for her. She has a lot of family troubles and it seems I am all she's got. Although I currently am in no position to take someone in because I haven't even found my own place in the world yet. No career and an endless list of things I want to do in my life... it just seems I am her free time and I want to do so many things and its hard to do anything when you are in anchor. I seriously care about her and her family sooooo much which is why I have been pushing on with this relationship for years... yes years now. She is truly my best friend but I don't know how to end this without her doing something drastic.... please... any advice is appreciated... I'm so torn as of now. Please help.
Perhaps Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 How do you break up with someone who you care the world about? My girl cares about me, literally more than anything in her world. I love her too..... but I don't love her the way she loves me. there is no other person in the picture or anything like that. I honestly just feel that i have lost myself a lot in trying to be there for her. She has a lot of family troubles and it seems I am all she's got. Although I currently am in no position to take someone in because I haven't even found my own place in the world yet. No career and an endless list of things I want to do in my life... it just seems I am her free time and I want to do so many things and its hard to do anything when you are in anchor. I seriously care about her and her family sooooo much which is why I have been pushing on with this relationship for years... yes years now. She is truly my best friend but I don't know how to end this without her doing something drastic.... please... any advice is appreciated... I'm so torn as of now. Please help. You sound like you really care for her but need some space to breathe. Hmm, this is tough. Talk to her about it - don't mention anything about your feelings not being the same as her. Talk to her in the sense that try to show her that you love her but you want some more time to fulfill your own desires as an individual... a healthy relationship should allow for that. Tell her that these are all the things you want to do in life and you want to share those experiences with her. You both should push for happiness but it seems like you're the one carrying the burden of her problems - which isn't healthy at all and is probably making you retract. Needless to say, I think you should try to make it work with her and really try to make her understand instead of giving up on it and hurting someone you care so deeply about. Good luck.
skydiveaddict Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 How do you break up with someone who you care the world about? My girl cares about me, literally more than anything in her world. I love her too..... but I don't love her the way she loves me. C'mon man, you don't "love her too" No one breaks up with a girl they're in love with. "but I don't love her the way she loves me." That's just a nice way of saying "I'm not interested anymore". I think you're having problems being honest w/yourself. You're just gonna have to man-up and end it.
GrayClouds Posted February 7, 2010 Posted February 7, 2010 I suspect you care deeply for her but it sounds as your both in a realtiohship together but niether one of you have become individuals yet. It is not going to be possible to break-up without hurting her. This does not mean you should not break up but to do it as thoughfully and kind as possible. You do this by being direct and honest and face to face/ Something like "I have come to understand that I need to grow as a person, there is things I need to do and can only do it on my own. I am going to end this realtionship. I have strong feeling for you and wish you well. I am sorry. I think think it is best for us to both give each other time and space to heal so I recommend going No Contact" Then give her the Love Shack website link,, she is going to need it. Do not tell her you want to be friends nor that yo still love her. If your being honest about no one else, make sure you do not get involve with any one for a good long time, just persue the goals you state you have. Be repsectful to the realtionhsip you had with her. Good luck.
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