Kristine Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 She loves him. She actually said he's a keeper. She's got me married to him already she said today as shock streamed across my face. She thinks he's sweet, nice, fun, friendly, and the negative thing is he's not a controlling person (yeah I know I come from a family of controllers) so she thinks he might be too easy going. Plus he's easily pursuaded by his friends and family, but she said he'll do anything for you and that's what she likes about him. He even took a job as a taxi driver, with his credentials she can't believe it, that's what sold her on him. I think it's because he brought us both flowers. But anyway I've got families approval if it leads down the aisle. And that's huge. Just got to figure out where I stand on his end of the deal because on mine he's in.
Leia Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 It's great to have family approve of your relationship. Is this the Muslim guy you're seeing?
Author Kristine Posted February 6, 2010 Author Posted February 6, 2010 Yes it's the same guy. She thinks he so easily pursuaded she might be able to talk him into converting. Long shot but it struck me as funny. Muslim guy and I just had a religioius conversation where he said he wasn't like his brother and wouldn't convert to Catholicism. Anyway yes it's him, things are going well. I have a V-Day date! And I'm excited about it. I'll introduce him to my daughter in a few more weeks. Just because Grandma spilled the beans on mom having a "boyfriend" and now she's curious.
A O Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 He met my mom and.... Hmmm, I thought you were gonna say something totally different! No matter. I'm not liking the air of (potential) manipulation in this thread however. .
Woggle Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 And you are not about to dump him because he is so boring and nice? Tell him I said you are a keeper.
angelaM Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Your mom's ready to marry you off to a guy she just met? Oh, he is smooooth....
Leia Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Yes it's the same guy. She thinks he so easily pursuaded she might be able to talk him into converting. Long shot but it struck me as funny. Muslim guy and I just had a religioius conversation where he said he wasn't like his brother and wouldn't convert to Catholicism. Anyway yes it's him, things are going well. I have a V-Day date! And I'm excited about it. I'll introduce him to my daughter in a few more weeks. Just because Grandma spilled the beans on mom having a "boyfriend" and now she's curious. I wouldn't count so much on him converting, even if persuaded cos that won't happen especially if he's from Middle East, even Asian Muslims would not convert. Not trying to rain on your parade but that's how it is. You do not have to convert though if you guys end up getting married.
sagetalk Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I like that you wanted your families approval, that is very smart. My sister is dating someone that neither I, my mother, nor my dad like. It seems she doesn't really care though. Your family (if you have a good one) cares about you more than any dumb boyfriend ever will. Glad you have a head on your shoulders, I wish more girls did. It would save them landslides of self inflicted grief and misery.
counterman Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 That's wonderful that your family approves!
You'reasian Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 She loves him. She actually said he's a keeper. She's got me married to him already she said today as shock streamed across my face. She thinks he's sweet, nice, fun, friendly, and the negative thing is he's not a controlling person (yeah I know I come from a family of controllers) so she thinks he might be too easy going. Plus he's easily pursuaded by his friends and family, but she said he'll do anything for you and that's what she likes about him. He even took a job as a taxi driver, with his credentials she can't believe it, that's what sold her on him. I think it's because he brought us both flowers. But anyway I've got families approval if it leads down the aisle. And that's huge. Just got to figure out where I stand on his end of the deal because on mine he's in. This is a good thing! Parental approval or friendship approval makes things easier - woohoo. Also cool that he brough the flowers - a few things Why is he working as a cab driver with his credentials? How much experience do you have dating outside your culture?
Pizzaman81 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 She loves him. She actually said he's a keeper. She's got me married to him already she said today as shock streamed across my face. She thinks he's sweet, nice, fun, friendly, and the negative thing is he's not a controlling person (yeah I know I come from a family of controllers) so she thinks he might be too easy going. Plus he's easily pursuaded by his friends and family, but she said he'll do anything for you and that's what she likes about him. He even took a job as a taxi driver, with his credentials she can't believe it, that's what sold her on him. I think it's because he brought us both flowers. But anyway I've got families approval if it leads down the aisle. And that's huge. Just got to figure out where I stand on his end of the deal because on mine he's in. GREAT SUCCESS! Coming from an Asian background, I know how important it is for family acceptance. You feel like a huge burden was lifted. Now as long as he doesn't do anything stupid, you're fine
Author Kristine Posted February 7, 2010 Author Posted February 7, 2010 A few remarks although a little late perhaps. I've dated outside of my culture, this is the first time family has approved. He's no longer a cab driver, nearly got killed (he had a gun held to him) quit the next day. He owns a business that's reasonably successful. I don't seem to attract people in my culture and visa versa, maybe I find that too dull. As for listening to my family, well I had to start sometime. Don't lose hope she may eventually listen. She may want to listen but feels pulled into his power for some reason or another (that's for sagetalk). Had I met him back 15 years ago, not sure if they would have approved. But they do now.
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