rob73 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 hey all, i've been dating this woman for about 9 month's now. she and i agree that we don't want nothing serious, but when we first started dating i screwed up and tod her that i thought i loved here, bad move she had only been devorced for about 7 month's from a jerk that treated her and her children bad. well she don't think that there is a such thing as a decent man, i prove her wrong all the time, ie i cook for her and her children, i take them out to dinner, movies, park's, and genaraly all kind's of thing's.. not caus i'm trying to win her over and make her think i'm a good person but because i truly care about them.. we broke it off for a month or so because she said it wasn't fair for me to love her and her not feel the same about me.. so i lied and told her that i did'nt want a relationship.. so, now we hang out all the time, but she will ask me what are we doing, and i tell her that i don't know, she said that she don't neither, i mean i know we are dating but i want something more, but i can't tell her because i dont want to run her off, i mean i'm not a bad looking guy i know i can find another woman but i don't want to.. i realy realy do care about her and her children.. she want's to be with me all the time but she won't let me know what she want's now? i don't know am i stupid or something? or should i just go with it and not be sure where i stand?? something's got to give.. i told her that my neice was going to move to tenn, and she thought that i ment i was moving and i could see that she was realy hurt.. until i let her know thet she missunderstood me..god i love this woman, i just don't know what to do please help me figure this out!! you know they say that there is someone for everyone and i think she is the one.... thanx
counterman Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 You know what you want, so there's no point continuing pretending that you could just "hang out" with her. When you told her you wanted a relationship, she did the right thing by breaking it off because she didn't feel the same. I think after a while, she probably would have come back. I see by the things you do you are a decent guy and that you do care about her and her children a lot. Though, you can't keep this going on forever. You are going to have to tell her what you want and let her decide what she wants; tell her that you do want a relationship. If she does want you, she will be scared to tell you that because you told her that you didn't want a relationship and her previous relationship didn't go too well. Just be honest with her. If she feels the same way, even after a break, she will come around. If she doesn't, it would have never worked in the end.
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