rob73 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 hey all, i've been dating this woman for about 9 month's now. she and i agree that we don't want nothing serious, but when we first started dating i screwed up and tod her that i thought i loved here, bad move she had only been devorced for about 7 month's from a jerk that treated her and her children bad. well she don't think that there is a such thing as a decent man, i prove her wrong all the time, ie i cook for her and her children, i take them out to dinner, movies, park's, and genaraly all kind's of thing's.. not caus i'm trying to win her over and make her think i'm a good person but because i truly care about them.. we broke it off for a month or so because she said it wasn't fair for me to love her and her not feel the same about me.. so i lied and told her that i did'nt want a relationship.. so, now we hang out all the time, but she will ask me what are we doing, and i tell her that i don't know, she said that she don't neither, i mean i know we are dating but i want something more, but i can't tell her because i dont want to run her off, i mean i'm not a bad looking guy i know i can find another woman but i don't want to.. i realy realy do care about her and her children.. she want's to be with me all the time but she won't let me know what she want's now? i don't know am i stupid or something? or should i just go with it and not be sure where i stand?? something's got to give.. i told her that my neice was going to move to tenn, and she thought that i ment i was moving and i could see that she was realy hurt.. until i let her know thet she missunderstood me..god i love this woman, i just don't know what to do please help me figure this out!! you know they say that there is someone for everyone and i think she is the one.... thanx
Satisfaction Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Hi Rob, you should try not to write a big block of text like this as it makes it difficult for people to read. From what i understand you really like this woman and her children but she seems too scared to say that she wants a relationship? That's the difficulty with going out with someone fresh from a break up. I'm not sure what the best thing to do is but perhaps you could talk to her about her previous relationship and see where her fears lie? Maybe from that you could gauge whether she wants from her future. I can see that you would be really reluctant to let her go and from what you said about her being upset that you would leave it seems she has strong feelings for you too. I think maybe talking around the issue could help? from what you've written here it seems you don't have a problem expressing your feeling so i think you would be able to bring this up gently to her... Post back here so we can the situation ok? Wishing you the best!
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