USMCHokie Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 It's so easy to not want to date any more... ...easy to not be rejected anymore... ...easy to never go through heartbreak again... ...easy to never be hurt by another person again... ...easy to never have to worry about whether you're good looking enough or worthy of dating... It's so easy to give up...
Jersey Shortie Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I've given up lately. Although I am not happy with that but it is very easy to go about your life and forget dating sometimes. Last person I seriously dated was two years ago. Been through alot of things this past year and I just don't see that many qualility men out there.
ella23 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Yeah, I can relate to that. Life would be so much easier. I almost gave up, too, and feel like giving up on my relationship sometimes as well.
You'reasian Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I don't date in the conventional sense of the word. I don't use dating websites; they take the human element away from meeting a person in your circle of friends or activities. I don't pick up women from bars - unless I'm meeting one there. Luckily, I've gotten this far without an STD and I'd like to keep it that way. Meeting people in your activities or in social groups is the best way to go. It allows you to get to know a person better over time.
bayouboi Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Amen! When I start to feel like I might want to get back into the dating scene it just takes me one trip over to the Infidelity, Cheating, and Marriage forums to scare me right the heck out of the idea of dating.
hopesndreams Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I haven't dated in almost 2 months. There is this one man though, the bluest eyes, the sweetest personality and when he speaks to me he has to repeat himself all the time because I am so overtaken by his sheer beauty that I can't look at him and listen to what he has to say at the same time without my mind going blank. He is off limits though, he's my boss. He's also 12 years younger. At least I know I'm still alive and know that there can be an intense attraction for someone again.
Dark_of_the_Moon Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Yes, I am sitting here thinking that would probably be for the best for me. It just makes me so miserable, dating to me is not a fun activity. I dont want to be hurt and I SO do NOT want to ever hurt anyone else. I have a good life and a great dog and everything is fine. So why keep fighting the one thing that causes grief?
TheLoneSock Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 It's so easy to not want to date any more... ...easy to not be rejected anymore... ...easy to never go through heartbreak again... ...easy to never be hurt by another person again... ...easy to never have to worry about whether you're good looking enough or worthy of dating... It's so easy to give up... Just keep on trucking Marine. You can't win if you don't try. The only other option you absolve yourself to is failure, that can't be an option. I leave you with this quote that I'm sure many have heard, but some need to be reminded of. Thomas Edison failed more than 1,000 times when trying to create the light bulb. When asked about it, Edison replied: "I have not failed 1,000 times. I have successfully discovered 1,000 ways NOT to make a light bulb."
PJKino Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I cant even get a date never mind face rejection once i get there I dont feel like approaching women and have them run away before i can finish a sentence,and then pray that maybe the 100th girl i approach after ive bene ignored an humilliated numerous times says yes even if im not attracted to her in anyway but its the only thing i can get
skydiveaddict Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 It's so easy to not want to date any more... ...easy to not be rejected anymore... ...easy to never go through heartbreak again... ...easy to never be hurt by another person again... ...easy to never have to worry about whether you're good looking enough or worthy of dating... It's so easy to give up... I think, it's easy, but also a natural defense mechanism. After getting my heart crushed 4 months ago, I'm not real eager about dating right now either.
sumdude Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I decided that love will have to find me and not the other way around. It's like losing your keys. The more you look the harder they are to find. Then you get your mind occupied on other things and you trip right over them.
Satisfaction Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Sounds like you have dating fatigue. Dating just shows you how many nasty and horrible people are in the world. Give yourself a break. How bad do you feel? Think of a number and take that amount of time off. Call you friends up drag them out and try and have as much fun as possible. Do all the little tasks you have been putting off. Those little things help alot.
Cinderella7 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I know exactly how you feel right now. I just went through another dating disappointment & I'm swearing it off for awhile/contemplating giving it up forever. I'm just so frustrated with the kinds of men I've been meeting and I'm not sure it's worth my time anymore. I just joined a new charity organization so hopefully volunteering will fill up my time & I won't feel the need to date or be with anyone anymore.
Trialbyfire Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 When you're feeling like this, it's best to take a break from dating. But honestly, it's not worth giving up in the long-term. If I had done so, I wouldn't have ended up with my wonderful husband, since each experience, taught me a little something more about what drives me!
tincanman99 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I have pretty much given up on dating as well. I have not been on a date in about a year now. Every time I dip my toes in the water I get freaked out and than disappear for a while. I am totally broken. About a year ago I dated a woman from work who disappeared without so much as a drop dead, I dont ever want to see you again (she is fine and reports to someone I know (she was dating 4 men from work simultaniously)). Before that I didnt date for a few years either. Its just easier to do nothing. I keep telling myself I need to get out there but cant push myself to do it. I even joined a supper club in NYC after the woman that disapeared. Dropped about $400 on it, ask me how many times I have used it in the year I have belonged to it? 0 - ZERO. Ironically since I lost the weight I have women eyeing me and chatting me up non-stop. The best part is they are ALL INVOLVED.
Zeegagge Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 (edited) I probably should give up at this point. I've had so much heartbreak, so much pain, so much drama, everything that goes with it, but I just can't stop. I keep going out there and taking more and more punches. I think I'm addicted. Love makes me overjoyed and pain destroys me, over and over again, but throughout it all the one thing I always feel is alive! Right now I'm dealing with the loss of a 3.5 year relationship, engagement, sequentially turning two girls into lesbians (well ok, wasnt my fault, but still 2 in a row!?), being alone in a new place, and blah blah blah. So what do I do? I'm selling wine at a festival tonight and this hhhoooottt girl comes by, my friends here are telling me she's bad news, and I'm chatting her up and getting her number. Whatever. It's like a drug to me now. Speaking of drugs, I'm about to roll me a fattie. I don't care if the internet knows, I'm in a place where no one can do anything about it. Anyone want to take a cyber hit off this? Edited February 6, 2010 by Zeegagge
Pizzaman81 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 It's so easy to not want to date any more... ...easy to not be rejected anymore... ...easy to never go through heartbreak again... ...easy to never be hurt by another person again... ...easy to never have to worry about whether you're good looking enough or worthy of dating... It's so easy to give up... Never give up, never surrender! Dating is fun dude!
Bejita463 Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Dating is fun dude! Relationships are fun. Dating sucks.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 (edited) I was badly scarred in my lifetime that I did stop dating for many years. When you have guys only want you for sex (while you think you are a couple), a guy have a party, invite people you dislike then let it be known he doesn't want you there (and tells you on the night of the party which happens to be Sweetest Day), find another guy with another girl, and another guy only wants you so he can swindle you it makes it hard to trust men. In fact I met a nice guy right after the con artist and treated him so bad. I'm still friends with him (he's married now) and wonder if I'd marry him iif I didn't hate guys so much then. Edited February 6, 2010 by greatgirlfriend
skydiveaddict Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Never give up, never surrender! Dating is fun dude! You're right. but when you really fall hard for someone and they dont feel the same way it really sucks. BTW way, your "rate my looks post" is still my fav. too funny!
Barky Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 If you're considering 'giving up' dating for anything other than financial or time reasons, you're taking yourself waaaaay too seriously. Rejection just means that the other person doesn't think your genes are very good. They're probably not. Big deal. 100 years from now you'll be long dead and none of this will have mattered to anyone. Put your own ego in perspective.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 6, 2010 Author Posted February 6, 2010 When you're feeling like this, it's best to take a break from dating. Well, the thing is, I haven't dated anyone since I broke up with my ex about 6 months ago...so it's not that I need to take a break from dating...the past half year has been a break from dating... Every time I talk to a girl in a casual setting, the only thing in my mind is, "ok, I am positive you have absolutely no interest in me," and I do my best to get out of there as quickly as possible... I've been in Tampa for a couple weeks now...spending time with friends from college...one of those friends has a mission every time we go out...get me laid...and it's just frustrating as hell to go out with him... I honestly have more fun hanging out with my married friend at the local bar where we just play pool or Golden Tee and not try to hit on women (the bar we went to tonight did not have a single girl in it...) It honestly is easier to just accept my place in this world...
Trialbyfire Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I honestly have more fun hanging out with my married friend at the local bar where we just play pool or Golden Tee and not try to hit on women (the bar we went to tonight did not have a single girl in it...)The other friend is just putting unnecessary pressure on you while you're still processing the break up. Just relax and do the above with your friends and don't let your other friend put the pressure on you. Push him back with a no, not interested right now. And anyways, you're a good-looking guy who should have no problems meeting someone when you've moved on a bit more.
paddington bear Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 It's so easy to not want to date any more... ...easy to not be rejected anymore... ...easy to never go through heartbreak again... ...easy to never be hurt by another person again... ...easy to never have to worry about whether you're good looking enough or worthy of dating... It's so easy to give up... But then...when something is 'easy' doesn't mean it's right. It's easier to just eat what I want and not worry. You get fat It's easier to watch tv than study for that exam. You fail. It's easier to give up on dating. You never find love I know exactly where you're at. But...just do what makes you happy, i.e. hanging out with friends where there are no women, but be open. I think when all of us get hurt and disheartened we swing to the opposite end of the spectrum. When maybe we should be in the middle. Not trying too hard and finding that there's no results and it's not at all fun. But neither giving up totally and living like a monk/nun totally closed off and thus remain so. Give up, but be open to something happening sometime would be the middle-ground I think.
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