Fiance protects her goodies.

[Scott.]

Me any my fiancé are engaged to be married, We have 2 children, she used to sometI'mes protect her goodies after the first child but not that often, but after our baby girl, shes really protecting her goodies now to a point i cant touch them at all, shes always pushing me away, ill go weeks without trying to touch her goodies, and just be affectionate to her hug her kiss her and tell her i love her,

 

im always telling her how beautiful she is and how I'm so attracted to her and i have a hard time to keep my hands off her, she used to get a kick out of it when i would stare at her and lose my self when she undresses....but now shes wont even undress or dress in front of me she will go in the other room...She recently started attending college and i work full tI'me in construction management, I'm she has a near perfect attendance record for college and even made the deans list...Its hard with babysitters and child care in our situation and im finding days where i have to stay home with the kids cause a babysitter didn't show up...

 

im lucky my job is flexible but its starting to take its tole on my job, but i do it so that she wont miss tI'me in college...recently she was showing me pictures of the people she met at school...one of them caught my attention because she explained him more and talked about him more...

 

one day out of the blue she told me i should grow my facial hair more...wich struck me as odd, because i used to have a beard and mustache, but she said it bothered her when i kissed her so i would shave more often...but i noticed this gentleman had a bierd...so it got me to thinking, we have sex maybe 3 or 4 times a month 6 on a good month and 0 or 1 on a bad month...each time we do have sex im the one who has to initiate it..she will never touch me or even initiate it..if i dint initiate it we will never have sex...

 

and recently she told me maybe we shouldn't get married till she finishes college..Im suffering with this loss of affection..when it gets to long i will explode and we will fight and have a good few weeks of sex...but I'm tired of this trend its wreaking havoc on me...this morning i asked her if shes cheating on me and she exploded at me and got mad saying i ruined her day...i said i was sorry for asking.

 

.....and that its just that time where its built up again...she didn't reply, any suggestions or comments might help...i love this woman so much i give her anything she wants and when its just such a pleasure to look at her shes so beautiful but it hurts that i cant enjoy her the way id like too.

Edited February 6, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[LucreziaBorgia]

now shes wont even undress or dress in front of me she will go in the other room..

 

one of them caught my attention because she explained him more and talked about him more..

 

recently she told me maybe we shouldn't get married till she finishes college..

 

i asked her if shes cheating on me and she exploded at me and got mad saying i ruined her day..

 

See that bolded part? She has a crush on this guy, and is more than likely thinking about sealing the deal with him if she hasn't already. She would rather chew off one of her own arms than admit it to you, either. People who cheat never tell the truth when you ask them about it. If you do get some "truth" it is usually the tiniest tip of a giant iceberg - for example: a man admitting to a kiss that was a one time thing, a mistake - when in fact he is banging the person he is cheating with four times a week, and has been for more than six months.

 

What to do? You absolutely, positively must not confront her on this again without some rock solid 100% proof. If you do, and you can't back it up - she will simply become better at hiding it.

 

How to get to the bottom of it? If you have a computer at home, put a keylogger on it. If she has a phone, check it on the sly if you can (do NOT let her know you are doing these things). Pretend that all is normal, and eventually she will tell on herself, and you'll be able to get a more clear picture as to what is going on.

[mark982]

scott, better be on your toes, things aren't looking so hot. like lb says be very carefull while you investage her.

[Scott.]

Thanks, Ive been very careful up till now and my eyes open but the said man is a married man. We havent had sex for 3 weeks till last night, it was the most amazing sex she has ever given me although seemed to start out bad because i asked her to give me oral and she said she hates when i ask her because she says it puts her on the spot, and we cant kiss pationatly longer than 10 seconds befores she stops or starts laughing she told me lastnight that it was because I once told her why cant we kiss longer than 10 seconds without her laughing...But she did end up giving me oral wich the last time for that was maybe 6 or 8 months ago...But 1hr later we were both completely satisfied.

 

I wonder if it was the fact of me asking her if shes cheating or me showing her the posts of another man on this site whose wife wouldnt let him touch her also...not mentioning im joining also to find answers but i made it obvious...plus we both had a pretty good day afterwards, I took her shopping for a new living room and bedroom set she was always wanting and we went out to eat, then took her to the mall to buy new clothes, we came home and she modeled them for me because she knows i like that, and I will compliment her all to hell, she actually got dressed and undressed in front of me, wich never happened in awhile, but other than all this i must say I had a wonderful day with her yesterday.

Edited February 6, 2010 by Scott.

[whichwayisup]

It makes no difference if the guy is married or not. Fact is, she's having some sort of inappropriate 'friendship' with him.. Maybe it's just an emotional affair, but it can very well turn into a physical one very quickly.

 

Here's a test. If this guy is such a good friend, then shouldn't you meet him? Why not tell your wife to invite him and his wife over for dinner! Watch her reaction closely..

[whichwayisup]

She also now knows you're susipicious of her, so she's going to make more effort (hense your day together and how great it was..) not saying she didn't mean it, but in her mind, selfishly, she isn't really thinking of anyone but herself.

 

Go read posts in the OW/OM forum and in the infidelity section.

[LucreziaBorgia]

the said man is a married man

 

All the more reason to worry.