Itzonator Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I've done some research in this area. Not everyone will be on the same page, and perhaps I will get some critics about it but ... in most marriages that lasted for 15+ years have something in common: the woman was subly controlling the man. I mean think about the plot most romance novels has: a woman meets a wild nutty man, with time she tames the man, and lives happily EVER with her well-behaved BOY.
anne1707 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 So is your research based on real relationships or fiction?
Woggle Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 This is bs because women never keep attraction to these men. The most successful marriages are where a strong man gives a woman his heart but never his balls.
Author Itzonator Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 So is your research based on real relationships or fiction? Women fantasize their relationships, their partners and PUT that into their relationships. So is this a fiction, or a real relationship?
randall Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 ... in most marriages that lasted for 15+ years have something in common: the woman was subly controlling the man. I won't comment on whether the 'controlling the man' thing is correct or not as I've never noticed that myself. Of the marriages I know that ended in divorce it was always the woman who initated the divorce after she become unhappy about something.
Author Itzonator Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 I won't comment on whether the 'controlling the man' thing is correct or not as I've never noticed that myself. Of the marriages I know that ended in divorce it was always the woman who initated the divorce after she become unhappy about something. You did not notice that, of course ... you did not have to notice it. The reason why she initiated the divorce, at least in some common cases, is because she could not subtly control the man.
randall Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 If you've done research on this you should post references. That would help a lot in providing direction for this topic.
sally4sara Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Yes I agree. We need some statistics based on fact. Please provide factual research for these hateful assertions. Its only fair to back up with fact, the statements that get made about all of a particular group of people instead of dragging bitter generalizations we've all heard from bitter, hateful posters. We are only exposed to a small portion of people in our lives and we don't get to see how their relationships pan out. So really, there is no way to prove these statements. If this site is going to help people, generalizations won't serve anyone well.
samspade Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 (edited) I've done some research in this area. Not everyone will be on the same page, and perhaps I will get some critics about it but ... in most marriages that lasted for 15+ years have something in common: the woman was subly controlling the man. I mean think about the plot most romance novels has: a woman meets a wild nutty man, with time she tames the man, and lives happily EVER with her well-behaved BOY. Some women seem bored with well-behaved boys. The minute you start falling in line like a beta to her every whim, you have LOST her. Edited February 5, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
meerkat stew Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I know that the conventional knowledge is that women get bored with guys who don't challenge them, but have to admit that the happiest, most long-term marriages I know of originated in the man chasing and wooing the woman significantly. Many of them started when the woman flat out rejected the man and he kept on and on until she gave in. No idea why this is, and just IME of knowing 200-300 married couples well enough to know the dynamic. So IME at least, would have to agree with OP despite it being counterintuitive based on common street wisdom.
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