pie2 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 If a woman is 2 years older than her husband, is she a cougar? Is she robbing the cradle? What if the man and wife are from different cultures? Do men from some other countries mature more quickly than American guys, in terms of settling down into marriage? Please be honest! Does this type of age difference mean the relationship is doomed??
TaraMaiden Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 If a woman is 2 years older than her husband, is she a cougar? Is she robbing the cradle? I'm 5 years older than my partner. I would say 'no'. A woman is only a cradle-robber if she remembers being at her husband's christening with another date.... What if the man and wife are from different cultures? Do men from some other countries mature more quickly than American guys, in terms of settling down into marriage? as my mother says: "It doesn't matter what job they have, what car they drive, where they live, what clothes they wear or how much they earn: They're only nine." Culture, country and habitat makes no difference, in my opinion. Please be honest! Does this type of age difference mean the relationship is doomed?? No. Worrying about it and making a huge deal of it, means it's doomed.
reboot Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 This is silly. 2 years is no difference at all in age.
Lizzie60 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 If a woman is 2 years older than her husband, is she a cougar? Is she robbing the cradle? What if the man and wife are from different cultures? Do men from some other countries mature more quickly than American guys, in terms of settling down into marriage? Please be honest! Does this type of age difference mean the relationship is doomed?? Nope.. if the guy is 50 and the woman is 52.. she's not the cougar.. A cougar is an older, independant woman with a much younger man.. I would say at least 15 years difference.. less than 10 years is not much of a difference IMO.
burning 4 revenge Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I'm 5 years older than my partner. I would say 'no'. A woman is only a cradle-robber if she remembers being at her husband's christening with another date.... I like that one I agree with Lizzie, for a true Mrs Robinson style cougar a woman should be at least 15 or so years older than her mate Id say anything much over a decade difference counts as an age gap relationship, but if youre just a couple of years then you guys are the same age
Author pie2 Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 You all are so smart! Worrying about it and making a huge deal of it, means it's doomed. I agree 100%! Thanks for the replies everyone.
Meaplus3 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 If a woman is 2 years older than her husband, is she a cougar? Is she robbing the cradle? I don't think so. I always thought of a cougar as a 40 something women dating a 20 something man. Mea:)
Samantha0905 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I'm 5 years older than my partner. I would say 'no'. A woman is only a cradle-robber if she remembers being at her husband's christening with another date.... LOL! Thanks for the morning laugh. Two years??!! Come on! My AP was 14 years younger than me. I definitely felt like a cougar and had serious doubts a long term relationship with someone that age -- even if we had started out both single -- would be possible. ha,ha -- I just googled it -- apparently there's a half your age, plus seven rule. It means they must be at least that age. I imagine so -- or it would start feeling almost illegal.
angie2443 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I think part of bieng a cougar is that you have to be older (more than 10 years?) and actively "hunt" for younger men.
Lizzie60 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I think part of bieng a cougar is that you have to be older (more than 10 years?) and actively "hunt" for younger men. I have never 'hunt' for younger men... they hunted me..
Lizzie60 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 LOL! Thanks for the morning laugh. Two years??!! Come on! My AP was 14 years younger than me. I definitely felt like a cougar and had serious doubts a long term relationship with someone that age -- even if we had started out both single -- would be possible. ha,ha -- I just googled it -- apparently there's a half your age, plus seven rule. It means they must be at least that age. I imagine so -- or it would start feeling almost illegal. According to that rule.. 36 would be good for me.. (I,m 57) my youngest MM is 31 yrs younger than me... he spent most of the night the day before yesterday... I'll see him again this coming Saturday night..
Samantha0905 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I think part of bieng a cougar is that you have to be older (more than 10 years?) and actively "hunt" for younger men. I just read on urbancougar (ha,ha) it doesn't necessarily imply the woman is a predator. I personally, found the term to be derogatory when I first heard it. Now, I don't pay it any attention much. I thought my ex-AP was older than 34 when I met him and he thought I was in my late 30s. I guess attraction is attraction, but there certainly seems there would be long term issues with such a wide age gap.
Samantha0905 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 According to that rule.. 36 would be good for me.. (I,m 57) my youngest MM is 31 yrs younger than me... he spent most of the night the day before yesterday... I'll see him again this coming Saturday night.. I don't know why -- but if single, I would apply the nobody under 30 rule. As I said, I really don't think age is that big a deal -- but I think it would be a problem if someone was thinking of a long term marriage with the person. I used to think it out and I would be 61 when he was 47 -- my current age. I just think that's starting to stretch it -- even though it's the same age difference as now. KWIM?
Lizzie60 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I don't know why -- but if single, I would apply the nobody under 30 rule. As I said, I really don't think age is that big a deal -- but I think it would be a problem if someone was thinking of a long term marriage with the person. I used to think it out and I would be 61 when he was 47 -- my current age. I just think that's starting to stretch it -- even though it's the same age difference as now. KWIM? I totally agree... it's definitely NOT for long term.. and it goes for both gender.. My last ex was 12 years younger.. I mainly 'date' men much younger.. although if one my age would come up and we had chemistry.. it would be amazing too.. it only depends on chemistry in the end..
Samantha0905 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I have never 'hunt' for younger men... they hunted me.. True. I'm amazed how many young man are flirtatious with me and I could be their mom. I totally agree... it's definitely NOT for long term.. and it goes for both gender.. My last ex was 12 years younger.. I mainly 'date' men much younger.. although if one my age would come up and we had chemistry.. it would be amazing too.. it only depends on chemistry in the end.. This is way off subject, but I was watching "Millionaire Matchmaker" and they hooked this 42 year old woman -- who looked not attractive due to way too much bad plastic surgery -- with a 51 year old very nice looking man. Apparently, he had dated Heidi Klum at one time. The 42 year old plastic surgery victim rejected him and acted crazy because she said he's "OLD!" I sure wouldn't have said no if I were single and he asked me out. It is about chemistry. I do think a person has to take reasonable care of themselves, however, to attract much younger members of the opposite sex. I'm funny about the being in shape factor. I like someone in good physical shape. That doesn't guarantee chemistry though. Chemistry must be present.
angie2443 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I just read on urbancougar (ha,ha) it doesn't necessarily imply the woman is a predator. I personally, found the term to be derogatory when I first heard it. Now, I don't pay it any attention much. I thought my ex-AP was older than 34 when I met him and he thought I was in my late 30s. I guess attraction is attraction, but there certainly seems there would be long term issues with such a wide age gap. LOL! Who whould have known that such a site existed. I usually think of the word "predator" as someone going after someone who's underage. Maybe the word hunt isn't a good word to use in this case. What I meant was, a cougar, from my understanding, is a woman who prefers much younger men (not underage). I also heard that a man who goes after much younger women is a "manther". I forgot where I read that though.
Samantha0905 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 LOL! Who whould have known that such a site existed. I usually think of the word "predator" as someone going after someone who's underage. Maybe the word hunt isn't a good word to use in this case. What I meant was, a cougar, from my understanding, is a woman who prefers much younger men (not underage). I also heard that a man who goes after much younger women is a "manther". I forgot where I read that though. LOL -- that made me think of "manties." I didn't know that site existed either. I guess there are sites for just about everything.
Lizzie60 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Sometimes I wonder if I could reach the 40 year gap.. maybe next year.. he'd have to be at least 18..
Lizzie60 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 LOL! Who whould have known that such a site existed. I usually think of the word "predator" as someone going after someone who's underage. Maybe the word hunt isn't a good word to use in this case. What I meant was, a cougar, from my understanding, is a woman who prefers much younger men (not underage). I also heard that a man who goes after much younger women is a "manther". I forgot where I read that though. He could be a 'pant-her'..
Author pie2 Posted February 6, 2010 Author Posted February 6, 2010 Manther!! LOL! Right now, his friends just call him stud. You all are absolutely right, it's about chemistry and committment. And thank goodness for urbancougar, to help demystify any questions we might have:D
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