Lakeside_runner Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 So the whole story is: She contacted me last year in mid-October. We met through online dating. We went out on a couple of dates always had a good time. Beginning December we became GF/BF. Then I left for a month, had to go to Europe. When I came back we really hit things off! It was just great - we had a lot of fun and a lot in common. I am in academia and occasionally I go out and give a talk at some university. Two weeks ago I went out to California where I was offered a position for the next three years (I am finishing up grad school). She will be done in December - I will be moving to California in August. I told her that I would love to continue our relationship and see where it goes and maybe if we still would have such a good time together she would like to join me in CA in a year (we would have an LDR for five months). She visited her sister over the weekend and when she came back we talked and she said that she can't imagine living more than 1 hour drive away from her sister (midwest). So at this point we have decided that this relationship does not have a future and decided to end things before we get too attached. What is sad is that we ended things right when everything was still so perfect and it is hard to cope with the break-up since there are no negative sides to focus on. Please tell me that there is plenty of nice girls in CA! I know that I won't meet anybody like her but that I will meet someone who is going to be also as unique and sweet!
skydiveaddict Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Personally, I've always put relationships before anything else. It's probably been a mistake, but what can I say. Considering your profession, I know that you're in a tough spot. Academia is a very competitive field. I'm a wind turbine tech, so I'm on the road constantly, but I don't have a GF either. I guess you just have to decide what is best for you. Good luck my friend
angelaM Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I am so sorry for what you are going through, that's the worst thing when you don't have any bad memories to think about! I had a breakup like that once, you never get a chance to see where things are going to go. But, there are lots of nice girls in CA, I'm in northern California and I have plenty of nice single friends. So there is always hope. :-)
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