tryintomoveon Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I've been with my wife for the last 8 years of my life, with 2 children, and my wife moved out the day after Thanksgiving. We have tried very hard to stay together, but she left. Throughout our marriage I was so unsure if I was with the right person. When we had our first child she gave me an ultimatum to marry her or she was going to leave. So I married her. A week ago my daughter told me that mommy woke up with another man in her bed. I mistakenly confronted my wife and she said she does have a FRIEND, Please!! A friend my A**. My world turned upside down. I feel betrayed. I feel she should have waited. I also was upset that my daughter noticed this!!! The worst thing all is she moved 2hours away and I don't get to see my daughters very much. Only about 4or 5 times a month. I just feel so confused. I wake up in the middle of the night crying feeling so lonely. There just so many memories of my family life at home, its hard to be here. I feel like a zombie walking amongst the world. Thanks for reading.
Angel1111 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I can't believe that your wife didn't even have enough discretion to have an affair without the kids being present. I'm guessing the relationship was troubled because it seems you weren't sure about how you felt about committing to her. Regardless, I can see how this has ripped you up inside. One thing I will say is that if the two of you divorce, you can usually put it in the divorce decree that she can't move out of the county with the kids. This prevents either parent from moving too far away from the other parent. If you end up going down this road, be sure to bring this up to your lawyer.
Author tryintomoveon Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 Thank you. Another thing that eat me up is that I want to call my girls to say goodnight every-night, but now, I just want to leave my wife alone. She moved on; I get it, but I'm trying place heart back in my chest. I'm thinking about taking salsa lessons just to get out and meet new people. But don't want to be with anyone because I need to find myself first
Angel1111 Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Honestly, it sounds like it's too soon to be getting out there. Maybe socialize with your friends, but salza may not be the thing. But you know what's best for you. Please, just don't jump on that dating wagon too soon. Rebound relationships will tear you up just as much as this one has. I don't recommend that you stop talking to your children just because you want to leave your wife alone. Just call and say, "I'd like to say goodnight to the girls." You don't need to get into any discussions with her, just be civil. Because the two of you have children together, talking to her is a must. She can move on all she wants, but the two of you have children to deal with together. Don't ever let her put you in the background of their lives.
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