x6xdrive Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Hey everybody, I have a little situation here. So I take the train (NYC Subway) every morning and one day I see this girl. She gets on two stops after I do. Well anyway, the first time I saw her she was basically sitting across me and we made eye contact. It was for a good 4 secs. We did that many times during the train ride but there was no smile or anything (not from me or her). Then I saw her two days later and this time there was a lot of eye contact. One time it was for a 7 secs, maybe more. And also when it was time for me to leave and I exited the train and passed by the window she where she was sitting and she made sure to make eye contact with me. Then, I didnt see her for a couple of days. The third time I saw her, there was barely any direct eye contact (maybe 3 or 4 times for 4 secs) but she was sitting by the window and I was across from it so she could see me through the window (reflection). I knew she was looking at me because I dropped somthing and when I went to pick it up I saw her looking at me. Fourth, time I saw her, she was sitting far away from me and there were people in the middle but when the crowd cleared she was looking at me again and then she looked away. I was also making eye contact but she had engaged. And today, she was sitting within an arms reach..almost next to me...she would look at me, when I was not looking but I made her aware of when I was looking....no eye contact (maybe once or twice but for 2 secs but I might have done the dumbest thing today..I wrote my number down on a piece of paper and tried to give it to her..just as my stop was approaching I reached my hand out and looked at her with a piece of paper...she looked away (no expression and not taking the paper). I had to get off the train because the doors would have closed on me.... Any insights? Did I ruin it by trying to give her my No. or she never liked in the first place..? What can I do to engage her?
zebracolors Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Maybe kept looking at you because a bit of ketchup on your chin maybe. Just kidding. You may need to initiate the first contact. If she's shy, and she might be since she seems interested or curious but has not said anything after 4 days. Just be casual, comment on the the train, weather, whatever. Might encourage her to open up a little and reply, you never know.
TouchedByViolet Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I've never read a story with this much much eye contact haha, make a move! Next time you see her walk up to her, say hi, and start a conversation. Or you can continue this eye contact madness.
Leia Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I would prefer for the guy to strike up a conversation with me first before giving me his number! LOL.
randall Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 If a girl keeps looking at you on different days but not smiling it's not a good sign at all.
Author x6xdrive Posted February 6, 2010 Author Posted February 6, 2010 Hey everybody...thanks for the replies...I hope to see her on Monday or sometime next week and see her reaction to me trying giving her the number. I think that she is shy and nervous which is probably the reason for her not smiling or saying anything for that matter. It might be the reason I am not smiling either, because I am nervous but will try when I see her next time to see her reaction. I will also try to engage her somehow. Hopefully she sits near me again. She has to be interested somehow because if she wasnt she could go sit in any other train car upon seeing me or sit somewhere where I wont be able to see her but she always ends up sitting in place where I can see her; coincidence...idk...lets see what happens next week...
Brookshiii Posted February 21, 2010 Posted February 21, 2010 I have been in the same situation. To me, it was always a nice curtain masking a heavy burden of heartbreak. I would just say hi, and if comes a reply then continue to break the ice. But always expect rejection, so when you walk away, you won't feel as bad about it.
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