Faker Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 So, there's this guy that asked me out about 4 times...to which I said no. He had told me that he was sort of crushing on me in a college class we took together, but didnt hit on me because I had a bf at the time. Finally, I said yes to a date, and we went to lunch during which he got two calls he silenced. We also chat a bit via the internet, and see eachother at school. He asked for my number 3 days ago, and I gave it to him, he still has not called me. He asked me out today, to go out tonight, to which I said no. I quickly sent him an email suggesting that we could go out in a day or so. To which he replied that he is going out of town soon to visit old friends, indicating that he can't go out with me. He also seems to find time to go out to bars, while maintaining good grades. Now, he approached me. And I was unsure of what to do. He seems to light up a bit when he sees me, but im not sure if that's fake?He also seems to search me out at school. I suspect he is dating other women, yet he has been persistant in pursuing me. Yet now that I want to go out, he's going somewhere. He did tell me that he doesn't know when he's leaving, and maybe...maybe, he has time. My issue is this, am I being played? Does he like me? or is he just playing? and why has he not called? Now I am incredibly confused. I have also developed a crush on him...
mortensorchid Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 He's just playing you. He was after you before because he was, simply, after you. Now that you have expressed interest in him he will continue to see other women. Did you tell him in the beginning that you had a bf? Now that you and that person are no longer together, the aspect of the chase is no longer there. I wouldn't loose a lot of sleep over this if I were you, you should just move on.
Author Faker Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 When he knew I had a bf, he was super friendly, but did not really flirt or ask me out. he waited until he found out i was single. Now, I did tell him that I have alot of dating prospects. and when I kept telling him no he said: "you know, asking you out over and over is starting to hurt my pride a little".
TouchedByViolet Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 When he knew I had a bf, he was super friendly, but did not really flirt or ask me out. he waited until he found out i was single. Now, I did tell him that I have alot of dating prospects. and when I kept telling him no he said: "you know, asking you out over and over is starting to hurt my pride a little". I think he is just nervous and trying not to look like a loser if he gets turned down by you. It already must be awkward because it looks like he was waiting for you so i think he is interested. He probably hasn't talked to you because he is scared of getting burned or he wants you to wait so he won't feel like he is always the one approaching you. If you like him, you should just send him a message that you want to go out for food/drinks or something. This situation needs to be simplified if you find him interesting. If you don't like him then let the ambiguity continue. Also, I don't think anything you have said about him would classify as playing.
tigressA Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I'm confused by this--you tell him "No" when he asks you out again and then you send him an e-mail? Why couldn't you just tell him over the phone "I can't tonight, but how's (insert date) for you?" I don't understand how that's so difficult. I don't understand where he's "playing" you here, either.
Author Faker Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 well, he asked me if i was doing anything tonight, and i said yes. and he took off to go to class. I also don't know if he really likes me, and i thought it was the guys' job to call? I did send him a message telling him that in a day or so I would be free to do something. I also told him that I do think he's cute, that I am attracted to him. it just seems like...im worried hes a partier/player. every time I talk to him, he has something going on, bars, the trip to see his friends,etc.
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