ladyjane83 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 So I have recently been trying the online thing. I have been out with one guy so far (4 dates) that didnt work out. But have been emailing another guy who seems very nice and lives very nearby. Have been emailing for about 3 weeks, a message back and forth every couple of days. Sometimes a longer gap between messages, but the emails are always nice and chatty. Anyway on Sunday he emailed and at the end said, well we could send emails back and forth for ages and not get anywhere, so we could catch up one night if you like?" I replied, chatty email responding to his and at the end said that yea it would be nice to catch up etc. I also asked him if he had done it before as Im quite new to the online thing. He replied a nice lighthearted email saying yeah he had been out with 2 girls from online before and said how he thinks its a thing that lots of people are doing these days, so I responded and said that yeah its a poplular thing blah blah blah and asked him how his weekend had been. But know not heard from him..and its been 4 days. This isnt that unusual as there a sometimes gaps like this between our emails, but would have thought that now a meet up has been mentioned he would be keen to set it up? I dont know. I know that I'm now eager to arrange it now that it has been mentioned. We havent swapped numbers yet so am thinking that maybe I could emails him something like "here's my number, let me know when you fancy that catch up :)" just to prompt it...or should I just wait for him to email me again? x
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 That wasnt really what my question was about. I do go out and meet people too...the online this is just another way of meeting people. And at the moment I'm finding it ok
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 whatever. If I thought it was something to be embarrassed off then I wouldnt be doing it.....and if they saw my picture on a site then that would mean they had been on it too! Why are some people on here always so quick to put people down and be negative? My post was nothing to do with whether online dating was a good idea or not.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I met my BF online. I wanted to meet up with him, so I asked him to meet up. Simple as that. I see no harm in emailing him back and giving a few times and places that you would like to meet. The worst that happens is he says "no" Either way, you will have your answer.
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 I dont know if I would email him with times and dates because if he is as laid back as he seems then that might be a bit too much. I might wait for the weekend and then just email him with my phone number...just a little reminder rather than demanding where and when.
Crazy Magnet Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I'm not sure how him being laid back and emailing him several suggested times conflicts. He can pick the time which suits him best. He's a man, not an alien! lol Go get what you want!
CleverName Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I'm with Crazy Magnet; why not email him and say Hey, want to meet? It's not demading at all. I noticed when I was communicating through dating sites that the guys only wanted so much of the online communication and then they wanted to meet. He is probably communicating with a few ladies so if you are interested you have to show it. It is really easy to just move on when you are only emailing someone. Of course, you may not be comfortable meeting in person yet, and I totally get that.
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 Oh I definitely do want to meet up, the sooner the better because like you said, there may be other girls in the picture. He has asked me if I want to meet, I have said yes, but he just hasn't got back to me with any areanements. That's why I'm wondering if I should do it, or at least give him my number as a prompt x
CleverName Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I say go for it and let us know how it turns out! Good luck!
carhill Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 He has asked me if I want to meet, I have said yes, but he just hasn't got back to me with any arrangements. He's not interested sufficiently, either in the process or in you, to proceed. I'd move on. I'm seeing a lady whom I met online and whom was reluctant to give me her phone number even after our first meeting in person. I merely set a timeline (in my mind) of one more date without a phone number resulting in my moving on. After that date she called without *67. I'm finding this is a healthy method of relating to the issues of online dating. Identify boundaries, set consequences and follow through. Everyone has their reasons and motivations for doing what they do. When things match up, synergy is possible. If you want to send a message (and not move on), simply message/e-mail him your phone number. No explanations; no requests. He knows how phones work
Author ladyjane83 Posted February 6, 2010 Author Posted February 6, 2010 So I have decided I am going to just send him my number and then leave it up to him. And I kind of have an excuse to send it because am moving house today so may be offline for a while so if I have a reason for sending it, it doesn't sound so pushy. I'm going for "hey, so I'm moving house today and may be offline for a while. So here's my phonenumber xxxxxxxxxx to let me knor if/when you fancy that catch up one night " what do people think? Yes? No?
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