xpaperxcutx Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Forget Belle Du Jour or Tracy Quan with her columns of Confession of a Manhattan Call Girl, this is real life, not some media conjured fairy tale where the girl gets everything. My friend is acting crazy. She's more than loony at this point to consider the options of being a call girl. When she called me about it, I almost went speechless because 1) she's a spontaneous girl 2) she used to have problems and 3) I can't believe her! Why is she doing this to herself? She's in college but apparently financial aid can only help so much that she needs a quick way to get money. Is that any reason to go about selling yourself? Correct me if I'm wrong that there's alot of misconceptions about escort girls? Don't they sleep with strangers? Don't they degrade themselves to being sexual objects for men? I'm so upset with her right now.
Ronni_W Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 (edited) If she's "spontaneous" as you say, it may be more of a passing thought than something she'll actually act upon? Or maybe she's just looking for some drama / to get a rise out of you / some attention? I get that, if you did it, you'd feel degraded and demeaned. But that does not mean that ALL call girls/prostitutes feel that way. It becomes difficult to remain 'calm and sane' when we apply our own values and principles to other people's choices and decisions that they make for themselves. To me, I wouldn't see it as something to be upset over -- she's not asking you to become a call girl. For sure, though, I would also have fears and concerns for my friend who was considering that. (Or, maybe that's more what you meant?) Possibly the best you can do for her is just calmly explain your own view and fears for her, but that you get it's a decision that she has to make for herself, and you trust her capacity to make a wise self-decision. This way also, if she is just looking for drama/attention, you're giving her the clear message she won't be getting any of that from you. Cut it off, rather than add to it type of thing? (Make it a non-subject and a non-issue, and hopefully she'll start thinking about a different way of making money. Hopefully.) Edited February 4, 2010 by Ronni_W
Stockalone Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Forget Belle Du Jour or Tracy Quan with her columns of Confession of a Manhattan Call Girl, this is real life, not some media conjured fairy tale where the girl gets everything. My friend is acting crazy. She's more than loony at this point to consider the options of being a call girl. When she called me about it, I almost went speechless because 1) she's a spontaneous girl 2) she used to have problems and 3) I can't believe her! Why is she doing this to herself? She's in college but apparently financial aid can only help so much that she needs a quick way to get money. Is that any reason to go about selling yourself? Correct me if I'm wrong that there's alot of misconceptions about escort girls? Don't they sleep with strangers? Don't they degrade themselves to being sexual objects for men? I'm so upset with her right now. Given that she considers it, she probably has no moral issue with it. And people sleep with strangers all the time. Instead of having ONS and giving it away for free, maybe she thought she might as well make some money in the process. That said, as far as I know, prostitution is illegal in most of the U.S.. That means she needs to think about how being caught could affect her future. Could it cause her problems in the field she wants to work once she has her college degree? How emotionally stable is she, does she think she can handle sex with strangers that she might not find particularly attractive? What rights would she have as a call girl when it's illegal. Can she refuse costumers or not? What about certain sexual practices? What does she think about the STD risks, what about being forced/raped if she doesn't comply with the wishes of a customer? How does she think to enter this profession? Does she already have a pimp lined up, does she have an offer from an "agency" to become one of their high priced hookers escorts? Does she intend to become self-employed? Also, does she intend to hide her past from future bf's? And that are just a couple of questions, there is a lot more to consider. I think she needs to think this through, read up on some stories of former call girls, etc. There seems to be "easy" money, but there are a lot of risks. Do you think she has thought about that or just the money she can earn? If I were in your shoes, I would read up on that stuff myself, so that you can give her links or addresses so she can inform herself better about what being a call girl is about, what the risks are. If she gets an idea of what could go wrong, she might rethink this idea and not go through with it. At least, you'd have given her the opportunity to make an informed decision. But as Ronnie said, maybe she isn't really serious and it's just something she said without actually thinking it through.
Crow9726 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 If you really think long and hard about it...other than the legality of it (which is moronic in its own right)...it isn't much different than those who troll for casual sex. If you have a ONS or something along those lines...then you are basically doing the same thing without the money transaction. If you have more than the occasional ONS...then it is basically the same as well. If you have one or more FWB's...that isn't much different than having repeat clientelle. The casual sex person spreads her legs for free...the call girl does the same thing for a fee. Except the times when the guy has to ply the potential ONS/FWB with dinner/drinks/dancing/etc...to get what he wants. Then the monies are just spent as opposed to exchanged...but the end result is the same.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 6, 2010 Author Posted February 6, 2010 Yeah well it's official. She met with with the owner of the agency, had an " interview" ( whatever that is) and said she's going to do it. Oh god, I hope she gets tested.
Pick&roll Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 Well, that happened fast. Maybe she needs a substantial amount of money a lot sooner than you thought, or she has thought about becoming a call girl for quite a bit longer than she told you. If she is just impulsive and does things without thinking them through at least a little bit, then she is a foolish girl. I hope she get out of this okay, both emotionally and physically.
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