tnttim Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 If you are truly commited to a recon and need help, ask away
nobmagnet Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 This may seem a nasty comment tnttim. Tell me you are the Grand Master of reconcillation when you are on your last legs and she is still there?? Nobby
anne1707 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 There is no one solution fits all for reconciliations. Whilst the overall stories might be very familiar, there so many twists and turns in the individual details. I do think it is showing a lack of consideration for others by saying "look at me, I successfully reconciled and can tell you how to do it". What worked for you will not necessarily work for anyone else. For start I know that the reconciliation between my H and I has been successful but we have done things diffently to you. I would also add that the troubles in your marriage are still very recent and it generally takes much longer than a couple of months to fully reconcile.
Ronni_W Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 If you are truly commited to a recon and need help, ask away Alright, I'll play. How would I start a reconciliation process if my partner cannot seem to grasp the concept of 'personal responsibility', and appears to be stuck in blame and resentment?
nobmagnet Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 yes how about a chap that receeded for years and resented me for just trying?? then sh*gging another woman without protection and putting my health at risk?? Oh yes an him just having no remorse till he was dumped by her?? Prey tell?? Nobby
sunrae Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I'll bite... It there a magic spell put there, I can put on my ex, to make him fall madl in love with me forever and no other?
In_Repair Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Ahh, give the man a break. He probably has a million different emotions washing over him right now. Just don't count those chickens until they hatch. I had reconciliation period too... then we separated 11 months later over the exact same thing. There is a VERY slim chance that your marriage will survive without one of you being permanently broken.
hopesndreams Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Still early days for you tim. I do wish the best for you and your situation, sincerely I do.
floridapad Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Tim Just when I was beginning to like you, you pull this. Is it not enough to lend your support in individual threads that you feel the need to highlight yourself in all this. Sorry Tim, I know you don't care, but this is the last post for me on this thread, the last post on any thread initiated by you and certainly the last time I will support you, or even acknowledge when you have something insightful to say. Good luck with your ego boost.
sumdude Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 And the narcissi aren't even in bloom yet this year.
wuggle Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Sorry Tim but I think I must concur with most other posters here, the sentiment behind this thread seems way too arrogant and conceited. Whilst I applaud you for trying to repair damage done to your relationship and being mature about your own part in the mistakes that have been made, this attitude does not seem too positive. I have learnt much from problems in my own relationship, including things like relationships are usually broken by both parties, we all make mistakes, and love CAN conquer all (with a sh*t load of work). But I have also learnt not to take things for granted and that there is no place for conceit and arrogance in adult relationships. You do NOT know all, neither do I. Loose the arrogance and you might make it through, good luck, honest, I mean that.
tojaz Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Boy am I glad I checked in today! I'll play guinea pig. My whole story is here tim, from bomb drop to present day. Map out where I went wrong and tell me how toget it right. (waiting patiently) TOJAZ
sally4sara Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Was I the only one who thought the OP was offering his services for a reconnaissance mission?
mimidarlin Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Sally, I had the same thought as you. "recon" means reconnaissance in most people's lexicon.
Author tnttim Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 Boy am I glad I checked in today! I'll play guinea pig. My whole story is here tim, from bomb drop to present day. Map out where I went wrong and tell me how toget it right. (waiting patiently) TOJAZ Please send me links to your story.
Author tnttim Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 There's a part of me that reads your guys nasty attacking posts and make me want to give up. Too bad I am not a quitter, because the fighter in me says "let the haters hate." Point blank, I got my W back, It's working between us now, and I know I can help others through this horrible time in their life. Why argue with that?
Author tnttim Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 Alright, I'll play. How would I start a reconciliation process if my partner cannot seem to grasp the concept of 'personal responsibility', and appears to be stuck in blame and resentment? Send me links to your story or message me.
Author tnttim Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 yes how about a chap that receeded for years and resented me for just trying?? then sh*gging another woman without protection and putting my health at risk?? Oh yes an him just having no remorse till he was dumped by her?? Prey tell?? Nobby He didn't miss you till you were gone. Did you go NC, live life on your terms, and date another man?
hopesndreams Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 No need for anyone to send you links of their story. Just click their name, click show public profile, click show all statistics and then click show all threads started by....
Author tnttim Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 Alright, I'll play. How would I start a reconciliation process if my partner cannot seem to grasp the concept of 'personal responsibility', and appears to be stuck in blame and resentment? Have you gone NC?
ThumbingMyWay Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Please send me links to your story. I think you could help alot more people by replying to individual threads. Most people tell thier story in their own thread and dont want to repeat it over and over....But my point is, I dont think you will get alot of response to this one because people usually watch and post to there own thread. You would be better off starting a new thread or posting to this one, a list of things you have done to help your marriage recover. this site is a great resource for people in damaged relationships, the more help there is, the better it is for all.
Recommended Posts