climbergirl Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Brief synopsis... Together (off and on) for five years. Tells me that he can't be here because he has 'so much to do' at his place. But yet finds the time to do another womans resume. A friend told me that the only reason he would do this is to get into her pants. True or False?
RobM Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 not enough information to vote true or false, i vote possible
Green Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Who the heck knows, you should ask him. I wouldn't like it if my gf was always busy yet finding the time to write a letter of reference for some guy. It really doesn't mean anything, but the fact your upset is real and you guys need to figure something out.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 If he cancelled plans, and is spending the time helping non family or a non friend female with a resume', if that's what you are saying, sure, you have every right to be peeved.
Author climbergirl Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 That was actually blown off. What set me off was when he told me that he and this woman were discussing how the patch (nicotine) was giving them weird dreams. I just asked what his dreams were and he responded, "I'm not telling you". I totally lost it then.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Eh, he could have been setting up for a funny and you didn't give him a chance, funnyus interruptus.
Green Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Eh, he could have been setting up for a funny and you didn't give him a chance, funnyus interruptus. If it wasn't a joke meant to be funny then she has good reason to be upset.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Agree, but can't imagine it not being a joke, or an attempt at mild teasing. OP what happened when you lost it?
Author climbergirl Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 If it wasn't a joke meant to be funny then she has good reason to be upset. Oh, I do appreciate lightening the mood. I feel like i'm left here feeling like-wtf-he can tell someone else but not me?? Seriously, where does that leave us? BTW- the dream thing was with a different woman.
Author climbergirl Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 Meerkart Stew- Things were said that were wrong to say. By both of us. But my part, he wanted me to support him for awhile--which i was ok with. But when i found out this, I used it against him. Not real proud of it.
silverfish Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Oh, I do appreciate lightening the mood. I feel like i'm left here feeling like-wtf-he can tell someone else but not me?? Seriously, where does that leave us? BTW- the dream thing was with a different woman. It sounds like he enjoys pushing your buttons too much. Maybe he gets off on the drama, creating jealousy out of nowhere, and playing power games with you. It snot nice though, don't stoop to his level by retaliating. He sounds like a drama queen
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Things were said that were wrong to say. By both of us. Well, maybe tomorrow you will both cool off and can have a talk.
Author climbergirl Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 Well, maybe tomorrow you will both cool off and can have a talk. I'm guessing that won't happen as this was a week ago. Usual MO. I guess I'm trying to figure out if I'm way off base being upset. Anytime I mention being upset he skirts off. I get to the point of holding things in because I know he doesn't want to work things out and prefers to leave. My fault is that I hold things in until I explode. I am not saying I'm a saint in this either, but do try to work things out. I'm clearly not doing a great job of it.
Author climbergirl Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 It sounds like he enjoys pushing your buttons too much. Maybe he gets off on the drama, creating jealousy out of nowhere, and playing power games with you. It snot nice though, don't stoop to his level by retaliating. He sounds like a drama queen He does know the buttons, but why push them???
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I'm guessing that won't happen as this was a week ago. Usual MO. A whole week? Dumpski time. Move on to greener pastures.
silverfish Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 He does know the buttons, but why push them??? Because he likes to make you feel smaller so he feels bigger. He feels he has the moral high ground because 'you lost it'. You feel bad because you 'lost it', and it all round makes him feel like the superior human being. Don't know why he does it - but maybe you 'supporting him' might have something to do with it ?
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