mortensorchid Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I have written about this situation before, and all I can say is that I am at a crossroads right now. Please let me explain... Weeks ago I met this man on Match. We had a wonderful first get together, the next day he called and said he wanted to see me again. (Good sign) We got together for a second time, had an equally nice time. After date #2 he said "Call me this week?", I said ok. I did call him, we had date #3 last weekend. We had another good time, long conversations, and ended the evening with a good night kiss (as we had done at the second get together). He said some things on the third date that I found a little ... questionable. As we had met on Match, I would expect others to be seeing others that they would meet through the website. Only reasonable, right? He said he had been on a few dates here and there, and my company was so much more pleasant than anyone else he had met. I said "Thank you", as that was a compliment. Jealous? No, I've done it too so who am I to be jealous of his seeing other women through that sight or any other means. He made some sex comments to me as we kissed good night. He said "I want to do more than this", I said "That comes later" because I'm going to make him wait a bit. It didn't seem to bother him, and he didn't try to touch me. Then as we said good-bye at the lobby of my apartment door, he said "Call me." I had called him for the third get together, showing that I was equally as interested in him as he had been in me (he suggested the first two get togethers). So, last night, I had a friend over and we were watching a PBS documentary on Monchu Picchu when I sent him a funny text "We are trying to solve the mysteries of Monchu Picchu". He texted back "They killed everyone. What are you wearing?". I texted back to him that I was wearing the Intihuatana, which is the sacred rock of Monchu Piccu. No response. I figured he just went to bed. Now Wednesday night, haven't heard a thing from him since. Is that weird? Did I do something wrong? I'm hoping he will call again, but as this is Wednesday night, his time is running out to set up for the weekend....
boogieboy Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 There wasnt any thing wrong with what you said. In fact its hilarious, and I dont know why he wouldnt think that was funny. Since he is still pushing sexual flirting so soon, I question his motives anyway.
OnlyJake Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 **** him. He was looking for a "sexting" answer. What a tool.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 **** him. He was looking for a "sexting" answer. What a tool. DAMMIT! I TOLD YOU NOT TO DRINK!
counterman Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 No, you didn't say anything wrong. I thought it was pretty funny. Yeah, he is pushing it a little fine. LOL, that reminds me what it's called! Sexting! There was this big deal about sexting not along ago.
Citizen Erased Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 **** him. He was looking for a "sexting" answer. What a tool. Yep. You essentially told him to back off on the sexual stuff, he ignored it. I wouldn't bother with him. Sounds like he's pouting over you not giving him what he wants.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 You haven't done a thing wrong, your texts were funny and clever, who knows if he digs you, but hopefully you will hear from him soon. I'd cut him some slack on the "want to do more" talk. I pulled a faux pas along these lines with a match date on a second date. Had more than a couple of cocktails and we were back at her place, first time I had been there, trying to play cool, but there was intense chemistry. We were making out on the couch near her dining room, and she said "That is so nice," in a very sexy way during a break, and normally I am fairly composed and think before I speak, but opened my mouth and slurred out with "drunken kiss" mouth, "Yesh, I want to pind you over that table right cheer and now!" soooo suave. Luckily we both started laughing, as she knew I was drunk. We ended up dating for a few months.
OnlyJake Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 DAMMIT! I TOLD YOU NOT TO DRINK! Hehe I actually waited til I got home....then I put on "Time on My Hands" (5 o'clock Heroes) and danced around my kitchen with a drink before sitting down to discuss the night with my wingwoman Everyone else was just having so much funwith their drinks....I was jealous.
TheLoneSock Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I saw the same documentary! Haha, and indeed your response was funny. I'd have laughed. Pay it no mind, let him come to you after a comment like that + silence. Let him prove his interest encompasses more than just getting you naked.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 Well Wednesday has come and gone. I have not heard from him since and I guess I am to make other plans for the weekend. *Sigh* I want to see him again though. But, you snooze you loose, I guess. I'll see what happens. BTW, I was not offended that he asked me what I was wearing, I thought it was funny and I also thought that my answer about Manchu Picchu was just as funny. I figured he just went to bed or something. But, I hope against hope that he will come around and call again.
silverfish Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I have written about this situation before, and all I can say is that I am at a crossroads right now. Please let me explain... Weeks ago I met this man on Match. We had a wonderful first get together, the next day he called and said he wanted to see me again. (Good sign) We got together for a second time, had an equally nice time. After date #2 he said "Call me this week?", I said ok. I did call him, we had date #3 last weekend. We had another good time, long conversations, and ended the evening with a good night kiss (as we had done at the second get together). He said some things on the third date that I found a little ... questionable. As we had met on Match, I would expect others to be seeing others that they would meet through the website. Only reasonable, right? He said he had been on a few dates here and there, and my company was so much more pleasant than anyone else he had met. I said "Thank you", as that was a compliment. Jealous? No, I've done it too so who am I to be jealous of his seeing other women through that sight or any other means. He made some sex comments to me as we kissed good night. He said "I want to do more than this", I said "That comes later" because I'm going to make him wait a bit. It didn't seem to bother him, and he didn't try to touch me. Then as we said good-bye at the lobby of my apartment door, he said "Call me." I had called him for the third get together, showing that I was equally as interested in him as he had been in me (he suggested the first two get togethers). So, last night, I had a friend over and we were watching a PBS documentary on Monchu Picchu when I sent him a funny text "We are trying to solve the mysteries of Monchu Picchu". He texted back "They killed everyone. What are you wearing?". I texted back to him that I was wearing the Intihuatana, which is the sacred rock of Monchu Piccu. No response. I figured he just went to bed. Now Wednesday night, haven't heard a thing from him since. Is that weird? Did I do something wrong? I'm hoping he will call again, but as this is Wednesday night, his time is running out to set up for the weekend.... Well it wasn't a very witty response from him, and followed by 'what are you wearing....' He doesn't sound like he's on the same level as you at all. He doesn't appear to value a sense of humour, and doesn't like being 'mildly' joked with. Honestly you're better off out of it...that kind of man brings out the worst evil sense of humour in me, and after that I would have been unable to leave that line 'what are you wearing' out of every conversation we had in the future. With a text, he could have thougt up a better reply and still flirted but sadly he doesnt seem up to the challenge...move on!
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