soulm8 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Yea, good luck with that if it actually happened. I believe it. I've had guys try to get my address right away. It's sad (and quite scary) to know there are people out there who are ruled by their genitals.
Author Barky Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 Thanks for the comments. Even the haters. Yes it's a true story, and not the first for me. It's fairly rare for it to from 0 to 60 that quickly though. The first time that happened for me was in 2003 after about 6 months of online dating. For meerkat, yes I've found that with younger women, talking on the phone is somewhat passe. I texted her a couple times on my way to her place, but there was no voice communication until she answered the door and said hello. I've also found that the ones who only want to text rather than talk are usually easier to get into bed than the ones who want to talk. Therefore with me, wanting to talk on the phone is usually a red-flag when I'm first making contact with them. I think a lot of people like the concept of going from anonymous to *incredibly personal* very quickly. It's an interesting experience, like being in a jet plane and going from sitting on the runway to extreme acceleration to airborn within seconds. I guess you could say it's a thrill.
Bejita463 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 That's nothing. I once had a lady send me her address as a first message, with nothing else. Then, out of curiosity, I showed up and it turned out the address belonged to THIS person. Then, after pleasing her both with my incredible skill and massive stamina, she shared some of her considerable wealth with me. Then the monkeys attacked, and I saved Earth.
TaraMaiden Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I supect this took you all of ten minutes....? Way to go.....!!
Author Barky Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 EDIT: saving this thread for the next "should men pay for the first date?" debate thread. Why on earth should a guy pay for -any- dates when so many women are doing this kind of stuff with guys who aren't taking them on dates? Why even date at all? Thing is, this is pretty damn rare. I can't tell you how many times I've been stood up or paid for drinks/appetizers with nothing to show for it. Also, I've been doing the online dating thing for YEARS and have spent countless hours trolling for broads. Probably that amount of time put into a real job could have paid for more than a few dinners. For men, you're always paying for sex in some way, IMHO. You have to go to it, whereas with women it comes to you (unless you're seriously unattractive). The trick is to recognize value and pay only what you have to, to get the quality/quantity that you need. It's about getting a 'good deal,' just like with, say, a used car. A lot of guys pay way too much for their ride
Green Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 First off condoms don't really protect a man that great from stds. He can still catch herp, he can still catch hpv(although suposedly its undetectable and they just assume most sexualy men have it) and it would be rare for him to get aids or hiv even if this girl does have it. If this girl is on birth control and he for what ever reason trusts that then I say damn good time. seriously whats the point of life if he wasn't going to be with this 26 year old who he found to be really hot. I personally would be worried with the way you met and quickness the sex cam. But maybe she never really does this, you don't really know her yet so she could be a real hustler for all you know. glad you had a good night and I personaly don't find this story imposible to belive like some people do and for me the sex with out the condom isn't the craziest thing.
Twenty-ten Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Woo-Hoo....our very own Beverly Hills 90210!! You mean Beverly-Hillbillies 902010? This is revolting! the fact you are even proud of screwing a used up cum sack you found online without protection is the sickest part of all. Out of curiosity, what time did all this go down because if I recall at midnight Eastern time or 9pm LA time you were trolling my thread on "37 yr old grandpas" that night and you seemed to be online well after that?
OndaChin Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Kudos bro!! I should start calling you "Ace" or something?? Online dating can be anything you want it to be and if you happen to meet others of discerning "Tastes" such as yours- GREAT! Just be safe... I'd like to recommend for your next rendezvous: "Alittle nutz onda chin action" next time around with this lady! I'm sure she'd appreciate that very much!
SOLACEMENT Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Kudos bro!! I should start calling you "Ace" or something?? Online dating can be anything you want it to be and if you happen to meet others of discerning "Tastes" such as yours- GREAT! Just be safe... I'd like to recommend for your next rendezvous: "Alittle nutz onda chin action" next time around with this lady! I'm sure she'd appreciate that very much! HA!!! @ "onda chin":lmao:
Twenty-ten Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 But maybe she never really does this, you don't really know her yet that was hilarious! No she never did this before, she never had a strange guy come over to her own place in the middle of the night she trolled for online. For sure this is the first time. She's just been lucky no one has raped her yet. She'll stop when that happens until then consider her a pro. As per the "it's not guaranteed you will get aids from unprotected sex" it only takes one time to get a disease for life, why even take the chance? You like yourself so little that you would willingly bring that on? They weren't even drinking and don't have the excuse they were drunk and didn't know what they were doing.
paddington bear Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 That's nothing. I once had a lady send me her address as a first message, with nothing else. Then, out of curiosity, I showed up and it turned out the address belonged to THIS person. Then, after pleasing her both with my incredible skill and massive stamina, she shared some of her considerable wealth with me. Then the monkeys attacked, and I saved Earth. haaaaaaaaaaa haaaaaaaa :lmao::lmao:
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Thing is, this is pretty damn rare. I know, but there was a thread about men paying for first dates recently. Many women think it is an absolute duty for the man to pay for early dates, as a matter of female privilege. My counter is that with so many women doing FWBs, ONS, and deals like you had, why should a man exercise chivalry or gentlemanliness on one end when there's no "lady" on the other end? Anyway, I pay for early dates, the privileged attitude that it is something certain women expect a their due for having a vagina, rather than something that they appreciate as special treatment, but don't always expect drives me crazy.
calizaggy Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 (edited) Not sure why some of you would not believe this story? Women are pretty easy these days..I also feel many of the women who date online are already banging guys out of their leagues, then online dating to find a boyfriend, when they then act like the "good girl" Edited February 4, 2010 by calizaggy
Jersey Shortie Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I know, but there was a thread about men paying for first dates recently. Many women think it is an absolute duty for the man to pay for early dates, as a matter of female privilege. My counter is that with so many women doing FWBs, ONS, and deals like you had, why should a man exercise chivalry or gentlemanliness on one end when there's no "lady" on the other end? Anyway, I pay for early dates, the privileged attitude that it is something certain women expect a their due for having a vagina, rather than something that they appreciate as special treatment, but don't always expect drives me crazy. I was always one to believe that the way I treated others was not dependent on what others did themselves. I think that kind of arguement, "why should men be chivarlous if women act like this" is just an excuse to be lazy yourself. If you don't want to be a gentlemen, don't. But don't blame the fact that you don't want to be a gentlemen on the fact that *some* women have fast and easy sex. This story isn't so outrageous. I suspect people do it more then they admit. However, it's both unsafe and a little sad for both parties envovled.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 No one knows whether people embellish stories here, we could all be state prisoners sitting in front of library terminals in orange coveralls. But for those who doubt barky because the story sounds preposterous, when I started internet dating, my second date from the site, a highly paid, attractive professional woman whom I had never met in person, only talked to via phone a few times, came to my house. When I let her in, she begin taking her clothes off, panties first (which she threw in my face), and was naked by the time she got down the entry hall. We were having sex within maybe 2-5 minutes of us meeting in person for the first time. Difference with mine and barky's story is that his happened instantly over IM, mine took five days due to a couple of phone calls. Haven't allowed that to happen since, because that one turned out really weird. But it happens. Give people the relative anonymity of the net and anything is possible. It's no different than a ONS, and anyone who says those don't happen regularly is fooling themselves.
Jersey Shortie Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Yeah, it is no different then one night stands. I agree. I find it funny how cruelly men judge women on the same exact practices they DO! Yet they think they are better catches.
Phateless Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 So I was on my favorite online dating site. Perhaps you read in another thread about me wondering whether or not to go out with a chick thursday or wait 2 weeks till she returns. I was sending her a message when another chick's profile caught my eye and I sent her a message. The second girl emailed back within minutes. We sent a few emails back and forth, then she suggested we chat on MSN messenger. So we did that for awhile. We were getting along well and the conversation turned sexual. She's been out here from Washington for 6 months and has been pretty lonely. She was joking about me coming over that night. I said I could be there in a half hour. She gave me her address. I went over, she was totally nervous. Wouldn't have anything to drink even though she has a jug of wine in the fridge. We chatted for awhile, then watched some online porn and critiqued the performances. Then we got it on right there on the couch. Went into her room and finished up. Killer tight body on this girl, she's 26 (I'm in my mid-30s). B-cups, small *ss, nipped-in waist, just hotter than h*ll. We fell asleep, but I had a hard time sleeping because her cats were jumping all over me all night. Next morning we woke up, did it again, I helped her cook some eggs, and that was that. We have another rendezvous set for this weekend. I love online dating. lol, very nice! Everyone deserves good sex. well I *brought* a rubber or two.. they never made an appearance though ...and that's a demerit.
Twenty-ten Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I'll answer to that because I did question the timing vs the timing of his posting in my thread the other night. I have 0 doubts this kind of thing happens, and often. One word: Craigslist. I had my doubts because a) I can't imagine anyone ignorant enough to be proud of not using protection with some ho from the internet b) the timing coincided with when he was also here. I only know this because coincidentally he accused me of being a troll that night. As per the why should men pay on a date when this happens so easily all I could say is, that yes I understand why men would feel that "why put effort into a date when women so easily do this kind of thing", but I should remind guys that not all women are like this. In fact it is the minority who behave in such a crass and reckless way. Most women don't do this kind of thing, I could be wrong but that is my hunch. If a man still pays for a woman on a first date as a special gesture, I would feel very happy to know that a man would find me special enough in such short period of time to realize that I am not some internet whore that invites god knows what back to her place. So I would be grateful to see that a man can make that distinction about me. Perhaps this is why the paying on a first date is typically not an issue for me. Men sometimes have to take a leap of faith and follow their gut instincts and sometimes women are exactly who they present themselves to be. Maybe a lot to ask of men, but hey the risk works both ways.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I was always one to believe that the way I treated others was not dependent on what others did themselves. Sure that principle sounds great for friends and acquaintances, but for relative strangers? I guess for the stranger getting free money from another stranger, the one with the vagina, it's a great deal, I'd be protective of it too. Not such a great deal for the stranger expected to give the money. Sounds like an adult version of "trick or treat" for girls actually, where you just hold out a sack and $20-150 falls in. Or is it more like a "beggar" or "charity case" scenario where women expect the money because they are "downtrodden?" It's never been a custom due to one being a woman and another being a man, but part of a -social contract- where the man is expected to do gentlemanly, chivalrous things and pay, and the woman stays home unescorted, doesn't wear a mattress on her back, and doesn't earn income. But as in so many things, women today love to ditch their obligations in such antiquated arrangements, while keeping any advantages that flow their way. Don't blame you a bit. Doesn't make it right though. But don't blame the fact that you don't want to be a gentlemen on the fact that *some* women have fast and easy sex. No, I blame the fact that women don't deserve FREE MONEY from men on the clear reasoning that they work just like we do AND MOST women these days engage in FWB, ONS, casual sex regularly or at least multi-date, which is enough to nix the tradition itself. When the custom was actually socially relevant, no man would even ask out a woman who kept FWB or was going on dates with 2 other guys that week, let alone pay for them.
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Yeah, it is no different then one night stands. I agree. I find it funny how cruelly men judge women on the same exact practices they DO! Yet they think they are better catches. In my case, the woman was a complete nut. I didn't judge her at all for fast sex in itself. Women have a right to have sex, just like men. I don't like being held to some outmoded gentleman pays standard though when casual sex is the order of business for so many women these days. It's like I'm supposed to ride up in my shining white armor with a sack full of money and wait for her previous "gentleman" to finish his business with her. That's not chivalry, there's another word for it, but chivalry ain't it.
Twenty-ten Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 (edited) No, I blame the fact that women don't deserve FREE MONEY from men on the clear reasoning that they work just like we do AND MOST women these days engage in FWB, ONS, casual sex regularly or at least multi-date, which is enough to nix the tradition itself. When the custom was actually socially relevant, no man would even ask out a woman who kept FWB or was going on dates with 2 other guys that week, let alone pay for them. Yes typically all those acts have and should be reserved for the males only. So long as it is just the man being a slut.... Men shouldn't pay because we have "vagiiines" they should pay because they are typically getting all kinds of OPP while they date us early on. Edited February 4, 2010 by Twenty-ten
meerkat stew Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 they should pay because they are typically getting all kinds of OPP while they date us early on. What is OPP?
Lizzie60 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 That doesn't surprise me at all.. when I separated from my last ex.. I went on a massive sexual rampage.. and I had lots of those.. most of the time.. no protection... I know.. I know.. In my book they are called sex at first sight..
Twenty-ten Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 What is OPP? You're not down with OPP? OPP = other people's puxxy - Naughty by Nature
sumdude Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Yes typically all those acts have and should be reserved for the males only. So long as it is just the man being a slut.... Men shouldn't pay because we have "vagiiines" they should pay because they are typically getting all kinds of OPP while they date us early on. Actually it's not all that typical. However in this day and age if a man doesn't have some OPP many women think there's something wrong with him and moves on.
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