MySweetie'sGone Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 So this friend of mine has a habit of breaking engagements. She'll ask ME to do something then back out. The worse was when we were supposed to go on a spring break trip (which she talked me into). I put non-refundable money down and then she backed out (surpise surprise). I couldnt go b/c she was the only person I knew on the trip. Since we graduated college i rarely see her. She was supposed to come up Monday and we were gonna hang out...surprise suprise I get a text from her saying she's too tired to hang out. Fed up I sent her a text that said "I'm out of town anyway." havent heard from her since. Do u think the text upset her? lol. not that it matters. I think this friendship is pretty much caput. I'm tired of her flaky ways.
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 Well...that's ok then...
CrestfallenNoMore Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 People make time for what's important to them. If you a priority, they will work to fit you in. When they don't, you either need to re-adjust your expectations of the friendship, or end it. That's the policy I follow, anyway.
Citizen Erased Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 I had a friend like this, drove me nuts. Haven't spoken to her for about a year, not worth the hassle.
Not the love ace Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 Don't make her a priority if you're just an option.
bluewolf17 Posted February 19, 2010 Posted February 19, 2010 I have had a friend like that. Totally undependable. I don't regret giving up on that friendship.
Alexz Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Here's the thing... If you put your trust in someone and make plans with them, and they back out, then they don't deserve your consideration and thoughtfulness. You sound nice and dependable, and if your friend is so flaky, she obviously takes advantage of you and your emotions. Just put her off and ignore her. You deserve equal attention and love in my opinion.
biqboy42o Posted February 22, 2010 Posted February 22, 2010 Who cares if she's mad you sent her that "I'm out of town" text. Why go out of your way to please others when this person is a lagger/flake?
blueyedgrl85 Posted February 26, 2010 Posted February 26, 2010 You can try writing a letter, expressing your thoughts when she flakes out on you and send/e-mail it to her. You can also confirm plans and tell her that you need advance notice if she won't be able to make it. Otherwise take a break from her and focus on people who ARE there in your life and maybe your friend will come crawling back to you. Either way it is just plain rude and immature for her to be doing this. You deserve better people in your life.
LynnM28 Posted March 2, 2010 Posted March 2, 2010 Even though it may not help you, I think it would be cool if you sent her an email or letter and explained, as kindly and "non-accusatory" as possible, how you feel and why...it may help her be more aware of what she does to other people, and she may be totally oblivious to it...may be too late for the two of you, but if you believe in karma, your communication may help her be a better friend to others in the future and hopefully you will have a fantastic new friend come into your life!
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Hi guys! I know I'm super late (havent been on in a while) but thank you so much!! I called her out on it in a letter and it took her about a month but she finally responded and apologized. We'll see where it goes from here.
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