sudden Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Well I dont think she want me back but im wondering if there is a chance............. because she really was the love of my life and I was about to ask her to marry me.... So we broke up a month ago. She broke up with me after an argument we had. She created the argument I think to give her a reason but in reality, she had already met someone else and was wanting to to go out with him. So thats it. He's probably Mr nice guy and may well be a rebound relationship but who knows. I know I made loads of mistakes and I really regret them as I've probably missed out on THE ONE. Anyway, we've been texting each other this last month as we had other things to sort out, and she has been giving me mixed messages in the texts, things like have you still got the pictures of our holiday or have you thrown them away? I said I had thrown some away, she got upset at that. Putting kisses at the end of the texts, that sort of thing, but she is going out with someone else now and she told me she is happy. Problem I have is she says she still loves me and always will, but that she couldn't be with me because she couldn't take the risk of us not working out again and loosing this new guy. I have made massive changes in my life to correct my way of life, but she cant see any of that as she is not around to see it. Even if she could see it, it may well be too late...... But what I want to know is: Before we split, I was gonna move closer to where she lived and get a job near her but since we broke up, she wanted me to cancel that plan and stay where I am. But Im thinking, why should I!! She is with someone else, she is supposedly happy, Ive made plans to move, I like the area Im going to move to, I like the Job I'll be moving for, I don't mind seeing her around, obviously it would kill me to see her with someone else, but thats my problem! I want a change in my life, so I'm moving! with her blessing or without! The move is about me, not her. She says the reason she doesn't want me to move is that she doesn't want to see me around with other girls or hear about me going out with other girls she may know or know of. She is prepared to move jobs, move towns if I move down. Not that I want to see other girls right now anyway as Im still madly in love with her and will take months and months if not years to get over her........ She said if I move, she wont talk to me again. Since I told her Im still moving, she doesn't want to see me even for a chat. Before I told her I was moving, I think she may well have seen me for a chat. But not now. Thats kind of fine for me and it kind of is not, but at least it helps me move on, but if there was any chance that by her actions so far, that any of you think I still have a chance, then I wanna go for it. I cant help it, I still love her. What do you think? Why does she not want to hear about or see me going out with other girls and moving on?????? I know I wouldn't mind seeing any of my other ex's going out with other guys because I would want them to be happy, and since I have no romantic feelings for them anymore, I really wouldn't mind seeing them with other guys. Why does she mind?
kwyser Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 If you were already planning on moving, don't stop because you broke up. It sounds like she is being controlling and doesn't want you to move on from the relationship, which may very well mean that you still have a chance. Whatever you do, don't stop living your life because she says she doesn't want to see you. That is wrong and selfish of her.
Author sudden Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 thanks, please keep the advice coming! More background: 1/ She called my friend asking him if I had been on a date and what happened. 2/ kind of nice sms's using cute words we use to use. 3/ Said she's not slept with the new guy yet (After a month, yeh right!!!) 4/ But she is still going out with the new guy and said she is happy! I don't know,......there is more but its not worth writing about. Just small things. I know the truth but Id like to hear what you all think. I think she wanted to keep me as an option while she got to know this new guy. I think its control and power. Such a shame! Glad I found out what she's really like before I married her. Still, after all this, I miss her and wish I could have her back........ But I know I cant. It has to be over. So I guess I just wanted to know what you all think her thought process might be? Psychology wise, what she may be thinking by not wanting me to move down? Its just that regarding my other Ex's, since I have no romantic interest anymore, I really wouldn't mind seeing them with new guys as I would happy that they have someone and are happy! Is it just a man v woman thing that they dont like to see the ex happy? Or do I still have a shot!
skydiveaddict Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 she is jerking you around big time. I would have absolutely NOTHING more to do with her. Some people just get a kick out of toying with someone else's emotions.
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