sudden Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 (edited) Well I dont think she want me back but im wondering if there is a chance............. because she really was the love of my life and I was about to ask her to marry me.... So we broke up a month ago. She broke up with me after an argument we had. She created the argument I think to give her a reason but in reality, she had already met someone else and was wanting to to go out with him. So thats it. He's probably Mr nice guy and may well be a rebound relationship but who knows. I know I made loads of mistakes and I really regret them as I've probably missed out on THE ONE. Anyway, we've been texting each other this last month as we had other things to sort out, and she has been giving me mixed messages in the texts, things like have you still got the pictures of our holiday or have you thrown them away? I said I had thrown some away, she got upset at that. Putting kisses at the end of the texts, that sort of thing, but she is going out with someone else now and she told me she is happy. Problem I have is she says she still loves me and always will, but that she couldn't be with me because she couldn't take the risk of us not working out again and loosing this new guy. I have made massive changes in my life to correct my way of life, but she cant see any of that as she is not around to see it. Even if she could see it, it may well be too late...... But what I want to know is: Before we split, I was gonna move closer to where she lived and get a job near her but since we broke up, she wanted me to cancel that plan and stay where I am. But Im thinking, why should I!! She is with someone else, she is supposedly happy, Ive made plans to move, I like the area Im going to move to, I like the Job I'll be moving for, I don't mind seeing her around, obviously it would kill me to see her with someone else, but thats my problem! I want a change in my life, so I'm moving! with her blessing or without! The move is about me, not her. She says the reason she doesn't want me to move is that she doesn't want to see me around with other girls or hear about me going out with other girls she may know or know of. She is prepared to move jobs, move towns if I move down. Not that I want to see other girls right now anyway as Im still madly in love with her and will take months and months if not years to get over her........ She said if I move, she wont talk to me again. Since I told her Im still moving, she doesn't want to see me even for a chat. Before I told her I was moving, I think she may well have seen me for a chat. But not now. Thats kind of fine for me and it kind of is not, but at least it helps me move on, but if there was any chance that by her actions so far, that any of you think I still have a chance, then I wanna go for it. I cant help it, I still love her. t What do you think? Why does she not want to hear about or see me going out with other girls and moving on?????? I know I wouldn't mind seeing any of my other ex's going out with other guys because I would want them to be happy, and since I have no romantic feelings for them anymore, I really wouldn't mind seeing them with other guys. Why does she mind? Edited February 3, 2010 by sudden
McGrupp Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 She says the reason she doesn't want me to move is that she doesn't want to see me around with other girls or hear about me going out with other girls she may know or know of. but she wants you to hear about the new dude in her life? first go NC hard. never talk to her again. then move if yo want to, **** her, **** her...this is all ABOUT YOU!! seriously..if u want to move do it and dont even tell her. and dont be there for her. goddammit!!
j444 Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 I found this out the hard way! a lot of girls have trouble ending relationships. If they do it up front and never talk to you again, it means they are over you, and finished. Only strong girls will do this. If they contact you, play games like this it maens you are still on their mind. Don't see this as an open door, see this as a door that has been closed but not locked. She still has the key to it in her heart. Girls do just stop loving and caring for someone, they bury their emotions sometimes just below a surface level, and sometimes very deep. Give it sometime (I know how hard it is), time heals everything. Let her come to you. if she does then very slowly work at this.
Author sudden Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 Thank you all, please keep the advice coming. I dont wanna sound like a sado! But its really helping. P.S. watch that film " The ugly truth " last night. That helped too. Please keep it coming, and thanks!
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