Puppydag Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Well got so much advice from the family that's it's hard to know what to think. Would just like to start of with saying hi to everyone. And Ja breaking up really can suck the life out of you!! So here is the story of my ex gf. So i please need some advice on how to find closure on the story. Should i have done more or just leave and move on? We where together for about 1.5 jrs, we where happy and had our routine going about things, although some times where hard she always said she will stand by me no matter what. There where future plans on getting married and stuff, she even shortly before the breakup said to me, " why would we not get married" So here me thinking she the one as my feelings where also quite strong. But here's the thing. She always went through my phone " to see if any other girls where texting me" Made me open my F.book profile to see what's going on there. since we started dating her sister once said i would not be able to provided for her one day.. This really pissed me off as i was working hard everyday. Yes i didn't have a big car and all the rest of it but i still worked hard and did a uni degree, So there was hope for us in that department. Then the one day i got a few text messages from my mother saying that she is not the girl for me ( my brother and sister also didn't like her). So i ignored it and didn't care what they said as i loved her. For some reason her mobile didn't work and she asked if she could use mine... No prizes for what happened next, she got the text from my Mon. As i got to work she send me a email saying we must end things as she See's red lights if my mom doesn't like her and that she doesn't want to get married into a family like that. I was very schoked and wrote her a long email that explained that my mother does say stupid things etc. Witch is true. She then told me NO THANKS" work on your future and basically she would appreciate it if I did not make it harder for her. Then went single on f.book to some big hero to one of her year end functions and got pissed every night. So i left the matter, did the NC for 3 wks. Then she text me one day saying that she wrote me a long letter, there she wrote how much she loved me and how happy i really made her. she said she has to work on herself and cant be upset of people like my mother and brother said bad things about her, but then said that God will bring us back toghter. By that time i was really pissed of with her actions. And i told her about all the things that bothered me and said we should part our ways. Got a stinking reply saying, ok didn't realize i was shuck a **** girlfriend now i can also move on... Shaw her again after holiday and she started crying saying my email really hurt her so muck. I then text to say sorry and she said thank you for saying sorry. Then she said she will let me know when then i must come drink coffee and we can talk about everything. She never let me know. So about two weeks later i texted to say hi, how things can i bring your things back. Waited long for reply and then got one saying yes, got there had a chat but not at all about the relationship, as she seemed happy, chatting away about the holiday and didn't seem to want to go into what happened and why things where said ext. Got a Xmas text from her but didnt reply as i was a general one. We kissed said good bye ( had breakup sex ). The next day she text to say hope you have a great day " i know i will because of last night! So i said great i want more. She said we will have to say goodbye again!! So i arranged with her to meet up again, and deep down in my hart i was hoping we could chat about the real problems. She asked me if i was around the weekend and i said yes. I then said to her LET ME KNOW what time ext. She never let heard from her. It's been 2 weeks/ WHAT SHOULD I DO? TEXT AGAIN? IS SHE PLAYING A GAME! MUST I JUST WALK AWAY??
DustySaltus Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Puppy, you have to walk away. I was you at one point. My parents and friends had their doubts about my ex and they were absolutely right. You have to understand that these people are looking out for your happiness and well-being. If they feel you are being mistreated by her SO bad that she's is affecting you as a person, they'll say something. Checking through your emails and phone shows that she doesn't trust you. Whether she finds something or not, it's your own personal space. If there's no trust, there's nothing. I've dated girls that my parents disliked and it had no effect on how I treated them. It shouldn't and obviously didn't have an effect on how your treated her. People dislike others all the time but grow to get along and even like them in certain situations. You sound like a good dude...you did nothing wrong. She sounds very controlling and manipulative. It's not about the size of your car, it's about the size of your heart and determination to make your GF understand that you truly care about her.....you did that. Life isn't going to get easier. Until she realizes what she did wrong and overcomes her jealousy any reconciliation attempt will be DOOMED.
Author Puppydag Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 I Would just like to say thaks for taking the time to reply! So you reckon she is playing games? Thanks anyway. Would like to become active in helping other to.
Author Puppydag Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 So i will walk away! Just bad how some girls make you feel that you want to go beat the grap out of them!! Even i would not even do anything close. But there comes time that i was thinking to see her mon or dad!! Wtf? Do i sound crazy.?
DustySaltus Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 The best thing to do is disappear. I've had women do some pretty bad things to me but despite my anger I always just walked away. The best "revenge" is complete silence. Let them not have access to you in ANY way. You'll feel better about yourself, start the healing process and take the high road......... I'm sorry you had to go through this but don't ever forget what you learned from it.
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