Caleb Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 I've went out on two dates with this girl. We've known each other for about three or four years. We actually used to date about two and half years ago. We broke up b/c I cheated on her. We ended on a pretty bad note. We both just got out of some long term relationships and we started to hang out some. So we've went out to eat and to see movies twice now, over the past two weeks. When we're together, everything is good. But when she goes back to her college, she acts like she could care less if she talks to me or not. I confronted her about it this past Friday and asked what was up. She told me she liked me, and that's all I needed to worry about. I said well are you playing hard to get. She said maybe, that she's doing this for a reason and so she can't tell me or it won't work. So whatever that means. Anyways tonight she was being really short with me after her practice. The conversation went something like this.... Me: So how was practice? Her:Sucked Me: How come? Her:He made us do a ton of running and squats Me: Oh that does suck, I bet you're legs will be killing you Her:Yea Me: Well anyways you still coming over Sunday? Her: Idk anymore, we might not get back from the tournament until late Me: Oh ok, well if I don't get to see you Sunday, when can I see you Her:Idk Me: Ok... so do you not want to work on this anymore or are you really just that busy? Her:No I'm really just that busy, I never have free time anymore And pretty much after that she was really short with me and seemed kinda of ill... so i brought it up, no response. I said if you want me to leave you alone then just say the word. No response. What's going on here?
alphamale Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 What's going on here? she wants u to leave her alone
D-Lish Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 she wants u to leave her alone Took the words out of my mouth Alphie...
Author Caleb Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 Ok but why? And wouldn't she just say that if that's what she wanted?
counterman Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Because she didn't want to be rude, feel guilty and hurt you. Sorry dude.
D-Lish Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Ok but why? And wouldn't she just say that if that's what she wanted? She IS saying that, indirectly. The fact that she is pretty non-responsive most of the time should be a great indicator to you she isn't interested. You asked her if she wanted you to leave her alone and she went silent and ignored you- that's a pretty huge hint.
Candyland88 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Ok. three things: 1) I read some of your earlier threads about a girl you'd been with for 4 years and you said you dated this ex 2.5 years ago, which means you cheated on these girls with each other. So I think it's a really bad idea for you to be going back to this ex again given your history with her. If you've grown and learned to be a faithful partner then you should leave those mistakes in the past and try to meet someone entirely new. 2) Otherwise, it looks as though you are leaning on her to help you get over this other girl and that is risky. Unless I'm misreading your feelings. 3) Also, if you said "She said maybe, that she's doing this for a reason and so she can't tell me or it won't work." Which sounds to me like she's into mind games and is really, really immature. I would watch out for that because you need to focus on you. I agree with everyone mostly though, if she is ignoring you that's a clear indicator that she doesn't want to talk. I'm a wee-bit bias though because my ex cheated on me before.
tincanman99 Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 Women do not communicate directly like men . They say things indirectly and want you to pick up what they saying so they dont have to be direct and hurt you and than feel guilty about doing it. Frankly based on her behavior you should leave her alone as the others have said. Just back way off. If she wants you, she knows where you are. Remember this, the person that cares the least about the relationship is the one who is in control of it. Frankly right now she does not care so you know who is in control dont you? Hint: Not you.
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