Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 So I live in a pretty sleepy suburban town; not a lot to do around here. I frequently drive to the city when I wanna go out. But in my town, there's this big mansion that was converted into a boarding house for European (mostly German and Austrian) girls who're studying abroad in the US and going to universities in the surrounding towns. And EVERY Tuesday evening, they all pack into the local Starbucks by the dozen. There are so many of them there. A lot of them are really pretty, but when they're all there, they all cluster into their little groups of friends, are chattering away in German. It seems like it'd be really hard to break into one of these groups. How can I meet one of these girls?
You'reasian Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 But in my town, there's this big mansion that was converted into a boarding house for European (mostly German and Austrian) girls who're studying abroad in the US and going to universities in the surrounding towns. And EVERY Tuesday evening, they all pack into the local Starbucks by the dozen. There are so many of them there. A lot of them are really pretty, but when they're all there, they all cluster into their little groups of friends, are chattering away in German. It seems like it'd be really hard to break into one of these groups. How can I meet one of these girls? Is this the Playboy mansion by any chance? jk Sit nearby. Smile - genuinely and say hello. If they respond, ask them how they are doing? Introduce yourself. When one of them breaks off into German, smile at her friend and say... "Oh yeah, I completely agree with her!" Have fun. Strike up some good conversation and if it goes anywhere, you might get a phone number and have a potential hot German girlfriend. Good luck!
OceanTropic Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 (edited) Aggressively. Edited February 3, 2010 by OceanTropic
You'reasian Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Just don't mention the Holocaust. Of course not. Its going to be fun and flirty conversation. Tell one of the girls that notices you that you'd like to learn German and that you'll pay....in coffees. In exchange for teaching you German, you help her with her English by taking her to the movies
You'reasian Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Können Sie Deutsch? I speak two languages: English and Drunk Dial English ...that is all
You'reasian Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 True. Perhaps you could casually mention that Hitler used to be an artist. Apparently he painted great landscapes. Speaking of Hitler to Europeans is politically incorrect in most European countries - its a very bad gesture, even if done accidentally.
You'reasian Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 In case you hadn't noticed, I was being sarcastic.... Its hard to read tone over the net.
You'reasian Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 In case you hadn't noticed, I was being sarcastic. In any case, it's ridiculous to say that its politically incorrect to mention Hitler. It's common knowledge that he's the greatest leader Deutschland has ever had. If it weren't for him, Germany would not have become a world power. It's like saying that it's bad form to mention Bush to Americans. Then again... Are you a hot German girl? If so, help the OP out. ...and post a pic, please.
A_guy Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Girls are girls. I would stay away from the really bigger groups of girls.From my experience it just makes it that much harder to really get in there, so to speak lol. If it was me and I was making a plan of it like you, I would invite along a friend and even better yet, a female friend if you can. I also wouldn't just go from girl to girl. They seem to notice these things. Go fig~! I would think European girls have a more liberal mind set and are more open to making new friends and having a good time.
meerkat stew Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 "Hi, can I practice my German with you?"
meerkat stew Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 True. Perhaps you could casually mention that Hitler used to be an artist. Apparently he painted great landscapes. Hahaha. Ask if they have seen Inglorious Basterds.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 If it was me and I was making a plan of it like you, I would invite along a friend and even better yet, a female friend if you can. I also wouldn't just go from girl to girl. They seem to notice these things. Go fig~! I really don't have any female friends. I haven't really met that many people since I moved back home from college a few months ago.
rathdowne Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Say something like - "du hast schöne Augen" My advice, being in a relationship with a German girl right now and living in Germany for a year - think hard before you do it... especially if you want something long term. Otherwise - have fun.
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Say something like - "du hast schöne Augen" My advice, being in a relationship with a German girl right now and living in Germany for a year - think hard before you do it... especially if you want something long term. Otherwise - have fun. Can I ask why? Are you American and if so are there major cultural differences? Just curious.
rathdowne Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Nein - Ich komme aus Australien. Hahaha - I'm an Aussie. I am finding it hard living here. Not just the language but the lack of friendly people, customer service... ohhh the list goes on and on. Living here, in addition to other influences is putting a gigantic strain on our relationship. If I could turn back time I would not have come here. But, 6 months into my stay, I am seeing the warm light at the end of the grey and smelly tunnel.
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Yeah tell me about it...know where you're at kind of in the same position myself, but without the love of a foreign man to help me through it (or maybe that doesn't help at the end of the day)...but I guess what I'm getting is that you're not happy with the troubles of the place you moved to 'for love' rather than the fact that your girlfriend is German - as in cultural differences aren't the problem, but uprooting yourself for the sake of someone else might be.
rathdowne Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Absolutely, it really does intensify anything that happens to go wrong in the relationship as well. All I can say is that if this relationship fails at some point, I am NEVER falling for another international. What country are you in at the moment?
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 I never like to say in case someone I know tracks me down on here...but...Germany....now let's hope this post disappears way down the list and quickly!! wie gehts? I love it here, but it's damn tough to be honest, so I empathise. Regarding you...from personal observation German girls tend to wear the pants in relationships, call the shots, be quite pushy about what they want and how they want it and the men go along with it, which I'm guessing is not the Aussie way. I think it's a shy German guy, bossy German girl dynamic (in general) which us Auslanders don't really get and so when getting involved with someone from a different culture, even if seemingly similar, you find yourself somewhat lost and confused at times. Been here nearly 3 years now, stuck it out. Have the language (more or less) got over the rudeness, lack of customer service...so it can be done.
rathdowne Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Hahaha sprung! Where abouts in Germany roughly? So you are an American in Germany? One thing that I do notice here is definitely the approach to sex in media etc is rather perverse in contast to home. I'm only going to be here for one year. My employer has already asked me to stay longer but I am itching to get back already. Bring on summer!
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Not saying but I'm guessing probably the same city as you from what you've said. I've not noticed the sex thing so much in the media, then again don't know what Australian tv is like, then again there is the ads for flirt/sexlines which are basically porn on national television, which I still find strange...and then all the porn in your local dvd rental place with little kids wandering about able to see women giving blow jobs on the cover, and then that sex toy shop right next to the toy shop so you've got giant dildos outside mingling with stuffed giraffes...ok, maybe you're right. I think they're more open about sex here, but I kind of like it, as in they see it as a normal natural thing, rather than a desire for sex being perverted, or on the other end of the scale, totally prudish. So, looks like you're going to abandon your poor girlfriend for sunnier climes...would she consider going back to Oz with you? I'm rather wishing I'd booked a 4 month flight to somewhere warm this particular winter. OP, I'm wondering if this is all putting you off the German girl you wanted to approach? You might end up in -20 degree temp winters, bad customer service, rude people, an extremely hard language to learn, and lots of porn in dvd shops and wishing you'd never left your homeland for luurve in the first palce. What if you managed to talk to this girl? You too might end up moving here...it's not all that bad. Love hate relationship shall we say.
Stockalone Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Sich über die Servicewüste Deutschland beschweren. That's no way to treat your friendly host country. You guys are just spoiled rotten.
paddington bear Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Ja! Tut mir leid. Aber so ist es. Still love my host country though, otherwise wouldn't be here still clinging on in.
boogieboy Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Walk up to the whole group and ask them about a relationship question for your "friend". Ask them something that all of them can chime in on. Start the conversation from there, and eventually get to teasing the one you like. But you have to keep them all involved until you can get her alone.
alphamale Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 It seems like it'd be really hard to break into one of these groups. How can I meet one of these girls? dress up like a german girl and infiltrate
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