Vintage79 Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 So I went out on a first date with a girl last Thursday - it went pretty well, decent chatter, lots of laughing, good body language, etc. I shot her a text on Saturday saying I had a good time and that we should meet again...no response. At least the crowd on here says at this point she's blowing me off and that I should look elsewhere. Well, I sent her an e-mail today (Tuesday), saying in a slightly more verbose way than in the text that I would like to see her again and suggested dinner on Thursday...fully expecting to get blown off, but it wasn't hard to write the letter. At this point, I get an e-mail response a few hours later saying that she's busy for the next two weeks, but that we should reconnect when her world calms down. The two week thing would normally sound like a blow off, or at least like she's seeing someone else, but given her work, I'm prone to believing her very busy schedule over the next two weeks...although it's hard to think that she can't find at least one evening for a quick dinner. So is she stringing me along? Interested/not interested? Any ideas on how I should proceed? Or should I just drop her altogether?
Crazy Magnet Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 If I'm really interested in a guy, I will move mountains to see him.
D-Lish Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 The "I'm busy" excuse is the kiss of death. No matter how busy I was, I'd make time for someone I was interested in. I suspect you'd do the same. She didn't respond to your initial text, and I would have left it at that and moved on. I suspect she is hoping you'll get the hint without having to say directly she isn't interested. There really isn't such a thing as "too busy" when you like someone.
meerkat stew Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Agreed, went through a period of working back to back 90-100 hour weeks for almost a year several years back, and still made time for dates. Unless she's working -that- much, she's just letting you down.
A_guy Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Yea man that doesn't sound too hopeful. I am not a big fan of texting either. I always felt it was kind of impersonal. I've learned that you can have a great time on a date with a girl and still nothing happens because one or the other is not feeling any chemistry or something. When I first experienced this I was a bit confused myself actually. Kind of lame and a disappointment...
kwyser Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 You can wait the two weeks if you want. But don't contact her. I would tell you to move on but not get to serious into anything if you really like her. Then after the two weeks if she contacts you then you are in good shape. If she doesn't, she blew you off.
D-Lish Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 You can wait the two weeks if you want. But don't contact her. I would tell you to move on but not get to serious into anything if you really like her. Then after the two weeks if she contacts you then you are in good shape. If she doesn't, she blew you off. She's already blown him off. The first time, by not responding, the second time by claiming to be too busy.
counterman Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Yeah, she has already blown you off. Just don't contact her anymore and date other girls. I agree, if you are really interested in someone then no matter how busy you are, you would spare some time for him/her.
Barky Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Agree with what everyone said here. Only would add... did you make out with her on the first date? If I don't make out with the chick on the first date, there's never a second date. I think chicks are fast movers just like dudes these days.
alphamale Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Or should I just drop her altogether? ^^^^^ this
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