Your Favourite Smile Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Ok, Im going a little crazy here with thoughts and so this whole thread may end up not making sense. A stupid question but: possible reasons why my ex has deleted me on FB? Its been months and months since he broke it with me, and i had sent him a message near christmas about my feelings for him. Anyway, he has a girlfriend now and so im trying to be happy for him despite their rocky relationship. I saw him recently as well, and said hi whilst kept strong. Its been quite good really, I thought things had cleared up and we could be friends. But just now ive discovered that im deleted, and im so confused and i feel strange He said he wanted to be friends, but this hardly reflects that. Nothing in particular has given him reason to hate me, so why delete me? Im sorry, i cant get my head around it. I hope this isnt his intention.. to seek a reaction if you get me. You see, although ive accepted being a friend, i havnt been initiating contact or making attempts to get his attention. Could it be this? That he wants a response? I dont know.. im messed. I still have feelings for him but.. i at least wouldve liked to have been on talking terms. Why will i have been deleted?
clueless haha Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 he still thinks about you but feels better now that he has deleted you
clueless haha Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 or maybe his new girl is just a jealous bitch and told him to "DELETE HER RIGHT NOW!!"
Author Your Favourite Smile Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 Its just such a shame he has found reason to do it... we live nearby eachother, its going to be awkward. Maybe it mightve been the girlfriend who did it.. people share passwords these days right? Who knows...
D-Lish Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Maybe he wanted to start a new relationship without his past relationships hanging over his head? It's also possible his new gf felt threatened and he didn't want to promote needless controversy. FB can be the source of a lot of angst for relationships. Regardless, an ex is an ex for a reason, and remaining friends isn't always a healthy idea.
GrayClouds Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Your asl\king the wrong question. You should be asking why does it matter? It is time to stop focusing on him, his action and his life and focus on you, your actions and your life. You deserve to heal from this break-up and that starts by being kind to yourself and stop hurting yourself by giving this stuff your energy. Good luck.
Author Your Favourite Smile Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 Its just sooo difficult. What throws me is that whenever i think things are going smoothly and im starting to feel confident in myself, things like this happen and thoughts flood back to me again. Its a lonely time as well for me i guess. Ill try to move ahead and get on with things. I just hope nothing else comes up. and thankyou by the way, I realise ive got to stop this habit of self destruction and learn to love/value myself a little more
GrayClouds Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Its just sooo difficult. What throws me is that whenever i think things are going smoothly and im starting to feel confident in myself, things like this happen and thoughts flood back to me again. Its a lonely time as well for me i guess. Ill try to move ahead and get on with things. I just hope nothing else comes up. and thankyou by the way, I realise ive got to stop this habit of self destruction and learn to love/value myself a little more Wow your amazing, I thought you would fight it much more. Be very proud that you show the courage look at yourself honestly That loneliness is part of what keep you holding on to a bad thing. It is natural to do. And set backs are part of the process. If you have not read to following, do it is a great place to break that habit (not just NC but all the other action suggested: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Again congratulate yourself, you just made a big step forward. Your going to be better then ok!
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