gsly Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 so some of you helped me figure out that this girl who i saw over the holidays wasnt my best move here's the thread: [COLOR=#660000]http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t212167/[/COLOR] well i was at dinner with my friends who are helping me with my shyness, so we were about to leave when i said i would try starting a conversation up with this girl again(from the thread), so my buddy behind my back starts txting her on my phone some of these that i was saying woulda never had the guts to say to her..well to be honest it actually turned out really good. her and i txt'd for a couple hours last night and this morning she saw that i was on facebook and she started a conversation which lasted a good chunk of the day until i left for out of town..then we txt'd some more up until now....so to sum all the previous up we talked/txt'd alot more then i woulda thought. basically i was toldby her that she wants to have a boyfriend but she's busy with a couple jobs she has. so i asked her if she wanted to get together sometime and just have some fun and start clean, she's thinking about it...but some of this stuff we were txting back and fourth we were kinda talkin dirty..like she knew knew i was kinda hinting at friends with benifits(which i wouldn't mind)...my question is ladies do you get offended when a guy would txt you say something like: lets get some blankets, watch the stars and go from there? or just talk dirty?
zicke Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 (edited) What the heck with the FWB thing? IS that supposed to flatter her? I'd "think" about it too, never. Especially since you haven't even gone out with her yet. Show some respect. Edited February 3, 2010 by zicke
Author gsly Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 What the heck with the FWB thing? IS that supposed to flatter her? I'd "think" about it too, never. Especially since you haven't even gone out with her yet. Show some respect. i think you got that last part wrong..her and i were seeing each other for i'd say close to 2 months up until christmas, just a lot of things were stressing both of us out and we just decided to put it on the back burner...my buddy asked me if i was more intrested in a realtionship or a fwb deal, i said said to him im more of a relationship guy and not into fwb...but it just seems the more i talked to her today it seemed like it would be a fwb freindship so to say.
zicke Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 i think you got that last part wrong..her and i were seeing each other for i'd say close to 2 months up until christmas, just a lot of things were stressing both of us out and we just decided to put it on the back burner...my buddy asked me if i was more intrested in a realtionship or a fwb deal, i said said to him im more of a relationship guy and not into fwb...but it just seems the more i talked to her today it seemed like it would be a fwb freindship so to say. Thanks for the clarification, I was all ready to get insulted for her lol. But seriously, a "thinkin about it" is usually never a yes, but always a no. If I were in your position, I would stop communication and move on to greener pastures. Her whole work excuse thing is just that, and excuse. You can do better, BUT, if you honestly can handle a sex only thing and not get attached then go for it, but history has shown that someone always gets hurt in that scenario. Me? I'd hold out for the full deal.
Author gsly Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 Thanks for the clarification, I was all ready to get insulted for her lol. But seriously, a "thinkin about it" is usually never a yes, but always a no. If I were in your position, I would stop communication and move on to greener pastures. Her whole work excuse thing is just that, and excuse. You can do better, BUT, if you honestly can handle a sex only thing and not get attached then go for it, but history has shown that someone always gets hurt in that scenario. Me? I'd hold out for the full deal. I know works not a excuse when we were seeing each other i visited her so i know how hard she work and i give her props for having that many jobs.. as for the thinking about it i know its a no(we just talked about it and its due to her work schedule)..i guess the main point im trying to get across is do i keep on talkin dirty(as long as she talks to me that way). My thoughts are i'd like a realtionship, and hoping maybe letting her get to know me better because to be honest she's everything i look for in a girl..she's got the personality/ the looks i look for in a girl.
zicke Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 I know works not a excuse when we were seeing each other i visited her so i know how hard she work and i give her props for having that many jobs.. as for the thinking about it i know its a no(we just talked about it and its due to her work schedule)..i guess the main point im trying to get across is do i keep on talkin dirty(as long as she talks to me that way). My thoughts are i'd like a realtionship, and hoping maybe letting her get to know me better because to be honest she's everything i look for in a girl..she's got the personality/ the looks i look for in a girl. That's great, but for some reason she doesn't think you are the "everything she is lookng for" so, you get put on the backburner. So, talk dirty to her all you want, or whatever, but she is not going to be your girlfriend. What you are failing to see is that she isn't into you like that. ie: Just not that into you. You can like her and think she is ideal all you want, but if she is giving you the blow off signals, you are being blown off. When I am into a guy relationship wise, I do not do dirty talk outside of a committed relationship and I also never blow off a guy or "think about it". A guy who I am not into, I might text flirt for a bit, but eventually I move on to someone I am willing to invest the time in. Take that as you will.
Author gsly Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 so, you get put on the backburner. So, talk dirty to her all you want, or whatever, but she is not going to be your girlfriend. she never put me on the back burner..we both discussed it and due to our busy schedules(mostly mine) we took a so called break from each other in my mind. It's just makes me feel weird inside because looking at what i first thought of her she seemed nice so i figure i would go out on a few dates then i lost intrest kinda in her which was part of the backburner thing, but after today after talking to her i just dont know why im back intrested in her
BG1985 Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 A girl is never too busy for a guy she's in whom she's interested. She makes time.
Author gsly Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 A girl is never too busy for a guy she's in whom she's interested. She makes time. it's just the way she is..i've talked with her friends about it and she's more goal oriented..im not to worried about it
counterman Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Well, if she really is busy, when she is free, she will contact you. Don't wait around for her. But, I think she might not be interested in that FWB thing.
Author gsly Posted February 4, 2010 Author Posted February 4, 2010 a little update..the other night when i getting ready to leave to go out with some friends, i told her to txt me when she gets done with work cuz she was closing up and i didnt want to bother her while she was doin that so basically she didn't txt me back that night and today i went on fb and she apologized to me. to be honest with ya i wasnt expecting anything after the other night but im starting to think she may be interested in me again, meaning before the other day we didn't talk for a good month and now we're constantly talking again
boogieboy Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 a little update..the other night when i getting ready to leave to go out with some friends, i told her to txt me when she gets done with work cuz she was closing up and i didnt want to bother her while she was doin that so basically she didn't txt me back that night and today i went on fb and she apologized to me. to be honest with ya i wasnt expecting anything after the other night but im starting to think she may be interested in me again, meaning before the other day we didn't talk for a good month and now we're constantly talking again Yes...you are making a BIG fool of yourself. The more you talk to her and kiss her ass, when shes not interested in making time for you, the more you kill any attraction she could have had for you. Stop texting her, youre wasting your time. She is probably seeing someone who is a "take charge" kinda guy anyway. I dont care how busy you think she is, she doesnt ignore texts from guys she really likes. Move on already!
make me believe Posted February 4, 2010 Posted February 4, 2010 If she was interested in you she would make time for you no matter how busy she is. It takes 10 seconds to compose and send a text.
Author gsly Posted February 5, 2010 Author Posted February 5, 2010 If she was interested in you she would make time for you no matter how busy she is. It takes 10 seconds to compose and send a text. ok so today i made the deal breaker, i know she had to work this weekend but i knew that she has off saturday night, so i said can you fit me into your schedule this weekend/or next week, with a reply of i can possibly hang out sat. night only if i her boss has her work in the afternoon on sunday. She knows that im very flexible with her and i told her that
A_guy Posted February 5, 2010 Posted February 5, 2010 Sounds to me like your chasing that tail really hard.
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