lorangie1 Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 I have a friend who is 3 years older than me, and she is very sophisticated, mature, and wordly. She is usually there for me when I need her and same goes for me. We are both really different people but for some reason we click and we've been good friends for a little over 4 years now (we met at work). Although we are good friends, we're the type of friends who only see each other maybe once every 2 months, but it feels like no time has passed at all when we see each other again. Anyway, she recently lost her job and she has, of course, been going to friends for help. I have many industry contacts and so I am the one she has been going to most for help. This is not the first time she's needed help for a job. I understand I'm her friend and that she doesn't owe me anything and I also understand she's having financial difficulties because of her job loss, but she hasn't even offered to take me for coffee or anything. I would NOT accept, obviously, I would pay for my own for whatever she offered. But she never said anything last time either after I pretty much found her the new job and I know she won't this time either. She's just been texting and e-mailing me nonstop, asking if I've done this or done that for her. I also am having personal difficulties at this time (I too am leaving my job AND I am moving cross country in 2 weeks and it has been very stressful on me) and she is just being really selfish and demanding. She hasn't offered to help me at ALL and I announced my move BEFORE she got fired. (Again, it's the thought that counts to me, I would say no, it's just that I ALWAYS offer help to all friends.) Today, after her 50th email, as a side note at the end, she told me she's having a superbowl party and told me to come. I found out that she's had this planned for a few weeks now and I am miffed that she hadn't invited me sooner. Am I being really really sensitive or this are these reasons to be upset?
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