AChick Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 I have been with the most fabulous guy for the past year. He is a really great guy who considering all he has been through is truely amazing. About four or five years ago he was cheated on, had his house foreclosed upon, and devasted by his ex wife but he has somehow remained a laid back, trustful, awesome man however there are a few things that have been bothering me and I need some advice on the best way to deal with them. I am getting ready to move into my mans house however it is the same house that he had found for his ex and his kids after she left him. It amazes me all that he did for her after what she did and that he has found it in himself to forgive her and be friendly to her for the sake of their children. It was one of the first things he told me on our first date and I really dont have a problem with that. His ex has been nothing but nice to me (well to my face) and I love his kids. All that matters is that I love him and he loves me and we have the best times together and we both cant wait to just start living our lives as one. However since I AM moving in with him, moving into the SAME house that she lived in...believe me I tried to find a new house for us but there is just nothing else on the market right now atleast for the size and price. So yea I have finally come to terms with all of that her presence in that house is nothing a few cans of paint and bleach can't fix. But what I havent come to terms with is this... Some of his ex's crap is STILL there. Bills are still in HER name, hell she is STILL getting mail there. The house is a complete mess due to the fact that she was a HUGE slob and left the house in chaotic mess that he cant even begin to deal with.... What I need help is with this...how to I ask him to change all of the above with out sounding like a complete *******?! His ex-wife is with a new man now, lives with him however he is complete control freak and hasnt really allowed her to bring much of her stuff over there. So yea I guess I feel alittle bad what looks like junk to one person could have special meaning to the owner however I feel that it is hard enough moving into a house with so much negative history with out having to be constantly reminded that they USED to be married and a FAMILY. I dont know I guess deep down it makes me feel like if her stuff is still there how are we supposed to start making our OWN life together?! Help....please? I hope my entry even makes sense I feel its a huge tangent but hopefully someone out there will understand where I am coming from.... Thanks!!
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