sid3 Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 I agree, it's never fair to generalize. I see some single moms pulling younger guys where I live, of course these single moms are in great shape and get bank once a month from their wall street exh. Most that I know have kicked the boy toy to the curb after getting tired of their immaturity. Exception to the rule though, these are more like cougars w/cubs that happen to have a rockin bod and $
Barky Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Yep pulled younger man with no kids here too. I'm not going to argue about quality here as I think thats up to women to decide really no? It's up to the dating market to decide. If the average guy would rate you a "2" on a scale from 1-10, ain't no way you're going to be pulling attractive young athletic dudes. Simple as that. The things that drop women on the 1-10 scale: -ugly -overweight -old -has kids -not sexy etc The things that drop men on the 1-10 scale: -short -bald -broke -socially awkward -bad dresser etc The market decides who we get.
Author lucy9216 Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 There's no correlation between being younger and being of higher "value". That's a fallacy when generalized across every individual. lucy, I agree that if he's unprepared to date a family, he's not the man for you. If he isn't prepared than it is fine, I still think he is a really great guy and would make any girl very happy..... I did forget to mention that something did happen on sat. that may have set him off, there is another friend at this place I hang out at who gets too friendly a lot of the time and I have had to tell him several times I am just not interested. Well this guy attempted to get too touchy with me in front of the one I am interested in and now he thinks this guy is my bf Sid3- that is very true I have seen that many times too and I thought it was quite funny to be referred to that in this situation as I was by some of my friends the only thing is I don't have a wall street ex with loads of money, but don't need that never had a strong desire to be rich anyways.... Thanks everyone for trying to help me feel a bit better about this whole thing, yes I was very bummed but I know it is a part of dating....
sid3 Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 That creeper that was all in your business hurt your chances with good guy for sure. Be sure and thank him the next time he starts gropping on ya. Tell him your gonna call the cops for sexual assualt, that should get him to go away.
sagetalk Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Raising another guy's kids is a lot to ask of man. I don't know another way to phrase it. A relationship is hard enough, a relationship with your own kids is hard enough, but a relationship with a women and kids that aren't yours is very hard on a guy. Some guys will go for it, but the ones with a good deal of options will likely run. Men face this all the time with women as well. People with options tend to choose the best option. This guy didn't see you as his best, find a guy that does. Everyone on here (unless you're a stud or princess) has been dumped, dropped, broken up with for many reasons other than kids. Whatever the reason, it's no fun. Find men who would like to help you raise your kids and don't worry about the ones that don't.
silverfish Posted February 3, 2010 Posted February 3, 2010 Raising another guy's kids is a lot to ask of man. I don't know another way to phrase it. A relationship is hard enough, a relationship with your own kids is hard enough, but a relationship with a women and kids that aren't yours is very hard on a guy. Some guys will go for it, but the ones with a good deal of options will likely run. Men face this all the time with women as well. People with options tend to choose the best option. This guy didn't see you as his best, find a guy that does. Everyone on here (unless you're a stud or princess) has been dumped, dropped, broken up with for many reasons other than kids. Whatever the reason, it's no fun. Find men who would like to help you raise your kids and don't worry about the ones that don't. I agree with this apart from the last sentence, I dont think anyone is necessarily looking for a man to help 'raise your kids' more accept them and get on with them. The children have their parents and hopefully they raise them. Theres been a fair bit on LS about single parents looking for a new Mum or Dad for their kids, when I dont think thats the reality IME, in fact the last thing you want is someone who think they can suddenly assume the parent role with your children.....thats not going to end well
Author lucy9216 Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 That creeper that was all in your business hurt your chances with good guy for sure. Be sure and thank him the next time he starts gropping on ya. Tell him your gonna call the cops for sexual assualt, that should get him to go away. I did not even know that the one I was interested in even saw this, I just found out today that he did and had made a comment to a friend of mine about it =( I will definately say something to this creeper next time he tries anything.
Author lucy9216 Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 [/b] I agree with this apart from the last sentence, I dont think anyone is necessarily looking for a man to help 'raise your kids' more accept them and get on with them. The children have their parents and hopefully they raise them. Theres been a fair bit on LS about single parents looking for a new Mum or Dad for their kids, when I dont think thats the reality IME, in fact the last thing you want is someone who think they can suddenly assume the parent role with your children.....thats not going to end well I completely agree too, I am not looking for anyone to take on a "parent role" my kids have their mom and dad and we all work very well together... just trying to date and find a good guy, the rest will come later. I am also very lucky to have an involved dad with my kids cause he see's them every weekend which gives me plenty of time to date and I don't have to worry about finding a baby sitter.
soulm8 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I am not looking for anyone to take on a "parent role" my kids have their mom and dad and we all work very well together... just trying to date and find a good guy, the rest will come later. I can't get over the attitude shown on LS towards single mothers. I'm right there with ya... my kiddos have a Dad... I'm looking for ME! The good thing is, any mature/decent man (who's right for you) or single father understands that you're a package deal.
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