Biccaroo Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 3 weeks ago I was dumped by my girlfriend of 5 months. During those 5 months things moved very quickly between us. For various reasons, such as quickly falling in love, difficulties at home and the availabilty of a house to rent off her aunty, we moved in together after 2 months. Whether this was a good or bad move I am not sure. I was dumped on the 9th January and since then I've found it very difficult to cope with my loss. The reason she left me is that she still thinks about her ex a lot and in fact started seeing him the weekend we split. Things were obviously going on behind my back. Nothing too sinister - just texts and emails. I know she wouldn't cheat on me. She'd rather end things first... as she has. I was unaware until recently that she'd been dumped by this bloke only a month before we started dating. Her ex was also her first love so they have a long history of break ups. Maybe 3 years or so. I believe that she loved me and still cares for me but I know that she clearly has stronger feelings for her ex. He's got a hold over her and even though he treats her like crap she keeps going back. I've tried to keep things amicable between us but I'm starting to crack as the hurt just won't go and I want her back. I know that they're seeing one another and I wouldn't be surprised if he moved in soon. It's hard to take. However, I've spoken to various people who know this guy and they're all convinced things will fail once again between them. I too believe this to be true but only time will tell. He's apparently not the sort of person who'll commit and I know that's what she wants more than anything. She knows I would've given her everything she wanted and more but it seems that wasn't enough. What I want to know is how do I remain in the loop but keep my distance? I want to be there if a chance for us to reconcile our relationship comes about because I know I can make it work this time. I made mistakes when we were together bofore but I've learnt from them and I know what I want now. How do I keep that bond btween us but remain distant enough to give her space? Bearing in mind Valentine's Day is just around the corner. I know you all probably think I'm crazy for wanting her back but I know she's the one for me and I'll do anything to get her back.
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