Koyaanisqatsi Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Hey guys. I'm new here. This seemed like a perfect place to get some good help, so I decided to join . Okay my story... I'm 16 and still schooling. I've liked this girl from school (who's 15, but in the same grade as me) since around the end of last year. I've steadily been getting to know her better and better and it has come to a point where she says she can tell me anything. Sounds great right? Yeah, but here's where the problem starts. Ever since I've started getting closer to her she has always brought up how she's not ready to be in a relationship, this wasn't aimed at me as far as I know (though I have told her I like her). By "not ready" I mean that she makes out with other people. Now I understand that as I'm not in a relationship with her, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have told her this as she has asked me if I think it's wrong of her to do these things, I also told her it was natural around her age and that everyone goes through this stage. What should I do? I had been planning on making a move in a few months, but this has made me change my mind because I think it might be too early. I really love her. You might think "Ha, teenage relationships!", but she makes me feel so happy. She can lighten up even the worst days for me with her smile and I just enjoy being around her, she's just a perfect person to me and I enjoy every second I am with her. She's made life as a whole so much better for me. I used to be depressed pretty much all the time, sometimes it even evolved into severe depression, but she has changed everything. I'm not going to give her up, so that is out of the question. So I'd really love and appreciate some help or advice guys. I'm thankful for absolutely any help. Thank you so much in advance . If you need any more details just tell me and I'll be happy to provide it.
counterman Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 If she says she doesn't want a relationship and you have told her that you liked her, then it is clear if you tried something, the answer would probably be the same. You are both pretty young and it is normal to feel this way, but if she is making out with other people then she's not ready to be exclusive. If you are not going to give her up, then wait until she is ready. But, I think she isn't interested in you. That's just my opinion anyway. I think you should talk to other girls. Have you made out with her? Have you been intimate with her? Or are just you just a friend now?
Author Koyaanisqatsi Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 Thank you so much for the help. I really appreciate it . Yeah I understand that she isn't ready to be in a relationship, and I've told her that and am fine with it as I understand what she's going through. I haven't made out with her nor been intimate with her, to be honest, this is the first girl that I've gone this far with. So I'd say, I'm just a friend right now . I'm going to wait till she's ready then . Thanks again man! If anyone else has anything to say, please do.
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