tincanman99 Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 You all remember me telling about the married woman at my gym who turned out to be pregnant who broke me down by touching me and chatting me up non-stop. In an interesting turn she has gone from non-stop talking to non-talking at all. Literally. It annoyed me quite a bit that she was doing it but I had decided to take all your advice and just be very casual and friendly but thats it. I figured it cant be too bad to have another female friend. As many of you said I am in control. Its gone from her being hyper friendly asking me what I am up to, how was my weekend to the grimance smile . You know the fake one that women do when they have to acknowledge you but they really dont want to talk to you - I call it the grimace smile. Its wild to go from constant attention to no attention at all. I guess it was all about stroking her ego to feel good about herself - the infamous attention you know what that you always hear about. To prove that she is still desirable even though she is pregnant. That she could have me if she so decided too. Now that she got what she wanted and I was friendly now she is done with me even on a friendly level. So lets summarize: 1. I barely speak to her and acknowledge her. 2. She goes out of her way to put herself in my face and touched me multiple times to make sure I did acknowledge her. 3. Barely speaking to full blown chatting me up and asking me about everything in the space of a month. 4. Full blown anxiety on my part - what does she want? She is married AND pregnant. 5. I decide to be friendly and just be nice. 6. She no longer speaks to me. I guess I shouldnt be shocked because its expected based on how she was behaving.
paddington bear Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 well...remember the other women at the gym were tut tutting and telling you that it was inappropriate to flirt with her because she was not only married but pregnant. It is highly likely that they may have said much the same to her, or 'avoid that guy who's always flirting with you, you're married and pregnant'. In any case, you got what you wanted. Initially you said that you just went to the gym to work out and that this woman was annoying you by constantly trying to get your attention and she was married and you didn't know what to do. Problem solved she's no longer talking to you. Stop worrying about what she wanted, what she was playing at. It's quite clear, she wanted attention, wanted some flirting, wanted to feel attractive. Now she's pregnant I'm sure she's had a forcible reminder that she's married and about to be a mom and so her behaviour towards you has changed. Forget about this woman. Change gyms, you're obsessing over someone who flirted relentlessly with you, despite her being married and who has now stopped abruptly because she's pregnant and won't be able to have that affair or fling or attention from you that she wanted. Go and ask some women out on dates and forget about this married to some other guy, pregnant by some other guy woman. Great that you got some positive attention from an attractive (but unavailable) woman. Now move on and get some positive attention from an attractive but available woman and just ignore this one, she started all this stupidity and now she's ended up all due to whatever her own agenda was.
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Change gyms, you're obsessing over someone who flirted relentlessly with you, I don't think he needs to be that drastic. He analyzed the situation accurately and I have a feeling in a month it'll be as if she never existed to him. No big deal.
Author tincanman99 Posted February 2, 2010 Author Posted February 2, 2010 I am good, no problems. I am just fascinated by the things that people do.
Barky Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Studying human psychology is often like observing a train wreck
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